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Throughout our lives, we have accumulated so much pain, resentment, disappointment that it has become unbearable to continue to pretend that we can live with it.
We carry it all with us in the form of traumatic memories, illnesses. It's like a suitcase without a handle: it's hard to carry and it's a pity to leave.
Sometimes you don't see a person, he's all flunked alone by his own experience. partly because the young man has been cracked by fear, he becomes shy, passive. If the first period is usually not valued in human life, the second is usually overestimated, and all its dangers lie.
We see this love as the peak of love. This is love that does not repeat itself, “stronger than all”, later love, only its pale shadow. Of course, we overestimate first love. We strive to stick to it. This is an attempt "at any price" to buy the object of love as a property. We try to keep love in our original ecstasy, which is extremely intense.
When we pull ourselves together and shake out what is possible from this suitcase, for some reason it is impossible to completely get rid of this burden.
- Will there come a moment when our bodies, thoughts, feelings will be completely cleansed?
- How to dissolve this burden that prevents you from walking freely along the road of life?
The answer to both of these questions is yes.
All this can slow down true love for love. It is clear that feelings, periods of life during this period are really very intense, very bright. This age is especially distinguished by the richness of feelings and the true "hunger" of love. However, in any case, love during this period cannot give a person as much as he needs, as long as it connects us to our bliss later.
This is due to the fact that a person still does not know the language of love, he cannot express himself, his feelings, cannot communicate deeper, cannot identify himself with another person. Because of this, first love is most often "failed love". Young people are not able to correctly choose the right object. Non-compliance leads to misunderstandings and misunderstandings, persecution, jealousy and conflict.
Exists universal tool that can heal us is unconditional love.
If you allow yourself to open it in your heart, you will initiate a powerful healing process on all levels, from the physical to the emotional.
What is unconditional love and how to heal with it, you will learn from this material.
Therefore, children's love requires self-focused attention, but not idealization. Love will grow, branch, wealth. Therefore, we do not recommend rushing with declarations of love. Reception obliges, and then it turns out that the object of love does not correspond to the ideal of communication. Love during this period always arouses the curiosity of the surrounding people. And because of this, a failure can lead to unnecessary comments, gossip. They will be much more painful, much deeper.
No need to rush to get rid of these traits. It should be added that most young people experience some excitement, sometimes at the same time. It helps a person to compare his feelings and manage them. In general, this age-old period, if we add that a young person must be able to manage himself, consciously manage his feelings, knowing what self-control is, is of decisive importance for the development of his personality.
What is unconditional love
Unconditional love is a feeling that lives in the 5th dimension.
It heals, transforms low-vibration energies: injuries, pain, fears.
It includes unconditional forgiveness and unconditional acceptance. Without these criteria, unconditional love is impossible.
If you are into spiritual practice, there have probably been moments when you have experienced this feeling.
Love youth. It starts when young people experience all these feelings, feelings of love, but they can already express them, express themselves in both intellectual and intimate sexual intercourse. During this period, there is a constant relationship between a man and a woman. People become more and more familiar with each other, with all the riches of the other soul and their weaknesses. During this period, it is already possible to combine self-identification with another person, reincarnation to another person, the ability to enjoy loved ones, appreciate, cherish, which are not yet immersed in earlier periods.
When you felt your connection with the spirit, you felt yourself one with all people and the universe.
These sensations are accompanied by the expansion of consciousness, a powerful stream of energy flows from the heart.
You feel that no matter what you do, you can do it.
What is the difference between conditional love and unconditional love?
Conditional love is the primitive level of human love. Here the principle "you - to me, I - to you" works:
The joy of communication, the desire to change oneself, to do better - this is the most characteristic feature of love. Yes, this period is mainly given to man, but it is mainly required from us. More often than not, the individual now perceives his imperfection, the imperfection of the person he loves, loses faith in good faith through love, only this time knowing much more consciously why.
Often one of the loved ones dies, becoming the way he wants to see his beloved and at the same time become his property. Or vice versa: Make the other person a property. In this case, one of the main conditions of love collapses - respect. Excessive adaptation to another person overwhelms the personality, impoverishes it. And as a result, she ends up becoming a love partner. Resistance to such demands causes conflict, coercion is the greatest opposite of love.
- I love you because you love me, treat me well, do what I say, etc.
- If you do not love me, do not fulfill my requests, requirements, I deprive you of my love.
Unconditional love for a specific person, a child is the ability to accept people for who they are and love them despite their attitude towards you.
Dangerous and admiring "love manners", "techniques of love", and not real love. The pleasures experienced by the losers should be the result of love, not its purpose. The happiness of love is much more complex and greater than sensual pleasures. Likes, in particular, to give, but only then. Mature love. She is among people who have been married for a long time. During this period of love, love reaches its peak, although she hardly notices it from the outside, she grasps it and she does not feel the same with her children.
What are its most characteristic features? In particular, a loved one is actually accepted as is - with all its advantages and disadvantages. His mistakes, which are often closely related to virtues, do not frighten or indulge, but on the contrary - some shortcomings simply increase love. The person who loves us sees and finds us much better than we know about ourselves. And because of this, we do everything better, because a loving person, proving our kindness, provokes us to good. That is why so many beloved people, seeing themselves with new, loving eyes, change not days, but hours: from an insecure, exiled, distorted, dumb pessimist, they become calm, confident, strong man.
This does not mean, if you are humiliated, stay with such a person.
In such cases, you continue to love, but out of respect for yourself, leave this relationship.
Love is a gift.
Once you feel unconditional love, you will realize it and understand that it can be directed to anyone. This is not dependence on a person, this is freedom, expansion.
This is another miracle of love. Protecting a person from his own shortcomings, helping him to overcome them and at the same time improve - just such love can be called a great act of eternal creation. Extremely great opportunities for creativity are also revealed in the education of the child. Parents teach their child to see and absorb all that is good, which is in itself, and thus captures the new person better than themselves. And at the same time they create themselves.
Growing love saves words. She's tongue tongue, but it's a generous job. You also have this love for your own dangers. The first is a kind of experience with a feeling as if it were self-evident and natural. It is forgotten that love requires constant attention, with purposeful efforts.
The highest level of unconditional love - when the heart is open, a stream of love pours out of it not only for a specific object, but to all things.
The moment we experience this feeling, our consciousness is transferred to the 5th dimension.
The more often we feel and broadcast unconditional love, the more we will stay more often there. Until we eventually make the transition to the 5th dimension.
The second danger is the temptation for a new love, a new person, often a younger one, with more expressed feelings, elements of uncertainty, risk, the desire to repeat the love of childhood and youth. But more often than not, such an attempt to overcome mature love is embodied: after complex, complete love, one cannot return to the past and enjoy new love just like when you were young.
Catholic Bishop Kova was killed in Albania, in prison. He secretly visited prisons and, at the time of his death, sacrificed the Mass in one prison.
The second danger is the temptation for a new love, a new person, often a younger one, with more pronounced feelings, elements of uncertainty, risk, a desire to repeat the love of childhood and youth. But more often than not, such an attempt to overcome mature love is embodied: after a complex, complete love, one cannot return to the past and enjoy new love in the same way as in youth.
How to feel unconditional love
Allow yourself to remember that feeling. But don't wait for it to happen.
If you have never experienced this range of feelings and want to understand what it is like, watch small children.
Children, especially those under 2 years old, love themselves and everything around them unconditionally. Their souls have not yet forgotten this feeling of unity, complete acceptance.
Look with what delight they look at themselves in the mirror, how they rejoice in communication with their peers. This is unconditional love.
This is how spiritual guides, ascended masters, angels and archangels love us.
While in the 3D world, we cannot experience this feeling all the time. Otherwise, we wouldn't be here.
Enjoy every moment that consciousness expands and you experience unconditional love. Thank yourself for these states.
Healing with unconditional love
Before you undertake to heal your loved ones, the world, with unconditional love, heal yourself first.
Allow yourself to love yourself:
- Realize that loving yourself is natural. Do not confuse with selfishness and selfishness.
- Put yourself first.
- Listen to yourself. Ask yourself questions: “Do I want this? Or am I afraid to look bad?
Our Higher Self is in the 5th dimension and loves us unconditionally.
Think about the fact that you are healing yourself not with some distant, inaccessible unconditional love, but you heal yourself through their own higher aspects.
Remember how you love yourself unconditionally, and open up to this familiar feeling!
When you begin to broadcast unconditional love into the world, the question arises: “Are those around you ready to accept it?”
Someone does not know what love is in principle, someone is afraid to love because of past traumas.
Do not think about how people will change, whether they will be healed.
As multidimensional beings, we live simultaneously in many realities and times.
Your wave of love will surely reach those who need it. needed at the right time moment.
Meditation Healing with Unconditional Love
I did this meditation at the Reincarnation 2016 conference.
The purpose of meditation: Afford feel healing power Unconditional love.
It is a multifunctional tool that you can use for healing physical body, traumatic situations, the transformation of negative emotions, thoughts into light.
For a long time, people have been trying to find a scientific basis for the feeling of love. They try to substantiate it and adjust it to some material base. Many researchers measure the pulse and. The behavior of people in love is analyzed and compared. And all this is done in order to explain these emotions and sensations from a scientific point of view. We will give you ten discoveries made during the course of various studies.
Discovery 1: Love has the same effect as cocaine
If a person who is experiencing wonderful feeling love, do a computed tomography of the brain, then you can find one interesting feature: there will be noticeable strong excitement of the two areas that are responsible for a kind of reward system. Researchers explain this fact by the fact that in the blood serum when falling in love, there is a significant increase in the concentration of dopamine - a substance that is responsible for obtaining a feeling of pleasure (and also causes it). Moreover, it is curious that in this way these zones respond only to the effects of cocaine with all the various external stimuli tested.
Opening 2: love feeling soul, which is based on the preservation of the form
Biologists in the study of animals have noticed that in those couples where long-term relationships are formed, these feelings go through three stages on the way of their formation: a period of desire, then hobbies and attachments. Desire does not mean that feeling of sexual drive, directed at some particular object, inherent only in man, but a completely different state, for which zoologists use this term. At the heart of desire from a biological point of view is the satisfaction of basic animal needs: quenching thirst, hunger and sexual instinct. Passion in this context means the appeared fixation on some specific biological object.
Attachment is a strong established bond between two living beings, which is calculated and aimed at fulfilling a long-term program for reproduction and conservation of the species. Scientists have proven that the romantic feeling of love in humans is a modified form of infatuation in the animal world. It arose even among our distant ancestors as a means for the survival of the species. Thus, the feeling of love is aimed at helping to save energy and efforts, so as not to be scattered, but to seek the favor of one partner in order to continue one's kind.
Opening 3: Strange feeling love does not last long, from one and a half to three years
And it is in this interval that the secret biological meaning is laid. Nature thus guaranteed for our ancestors the participation of a man and help in the very first, which are the most difficult, months of life and his mother. Sometimes the interval for maintaining a feeling of love increases. This happens most often when there are some barriers (for example, separation, lack of reciprocity, mismatch between schedules in love and rare meetings).
Discovery 4: A person experiencing a feeling of love becomes blind
A study was conducted by the German scientist Andreas Bartel and obtained, which indicate that a person in love is in a sleeping (inactive) state those areas that are usually active in healthy people who do not experience feelings of love.
These areas are zones responsible for making rational decisions and feeling negative emotions, which determines a kind of worldview. loving person and the well-known assertion that love is blind.
Discovery 5: Depression almost always accompanies love
It has been found that a person who experiences unrequited love goes through two physiological stages. Initially, the concentration of dopamine increases even more than at the beginning, when a feeling of falling in love arises.
The result of this rise and overdose is an intense rage that appears and an even greater aggravation of the original state of love. However, sooner or later, the time comes for the arrival of the second phase, which is caused by a drop in dopamine levels much lower than the level usually for a healthy and unloved person, which leads to a state of severe depression.
Discovery 6: Getting rid of love is like curing addiction
Since it was found that love, in terms of its mechanism of action, is similar to the effect of cocaine (point No. 1), then, according to scientists, it is necessary to treat this state of unhappy love in the same way as drug addiction. It is recommended that you definitely eliminate everything that reminds you of the object of passion, all incentives - throw away photographs, do not try to see or hear a voice. And, most importantly, you need to allow yourself to be carried away by something radically new. That is to start all over again.
Discovery 7: Feelings of Love Can Be Treated With Medications
A man in love who is not able to control his actions is like a maniac in this respect. In both, this condition occurs as a result of severe chemical changes occurring in the blood, which are due to a decrease in the concentration of an important hormone called serotonin. His fall occurs as a result of an increase in the content of dopamine, a natural drug that pushes a person in love to commit various insane acts and completely disables his control system.
The number of crimes committed because of love is such that in the United States of America they are beginning to seriously discuss the possibility of treating this feeling with medications.
Discovery 8: The feeling of love can be killed by the introduction of serotonin
Practical studies have found that when a laboratory mouse was injected with a large dose of serotonin, it rejected its regular partner and began to mate with everyone. This phenomenon was explained by the fact that under the influence of the introduced serotonin, the concentration of dopamine in the blood and, accordingly, the degree of love fell, but the attraction did not disappear. In the context of this study, it is important for a person to remember that the level of serotonin in the blood can increase as a result of the action of modern antidepressant drugs.
Discovery 9: Faded feelings of love can renew the feeling of novelty
When couples arrive in another country, find themselves in an unfamiliar environment in a hotel, many of them are capable of doing crazy things. Love researchers explain this by saying that in response to any new sensations, high concentrations of dopamine begin to be released in the brain again, which can renew old sensations and bring to life the lost drive of lovers. In this regard, American psychologists for many years in their family therapy sessions advise couples to go on dates with each other at least once a week. However, it must be remembered that you should not visit the same restaurant. It is imperative to look for a sense of novelty and change the meeting place.
10 scientific facts about love (video)
Discovery 10: Men and women love differently
Scientists have noticed that when a man falls in love, those areas of the cortex in the cerebral hemispheres that are responsible for visual perception are activated in him. This fact confirmed the long-known statement that men love with their eyes. In women, in this regard, things happen a little differently, they become an active site associated with memory. There is a memorization of the partner's behavior for several weeks, the information received is then analyzed, all the arguments for and against the relationship are weighed. Ultimately, a woman remembers all the nuances and details of the beginning of the novel much better.
