Bank of newborns for adoption. Finding and selecting a child for adoption

As it turns out, the Federal Data Bank for Children Without Parental Care is an impenetrable fortress. The people who managed to get into it are few. And in general, it seems that the FBI is specially closed from all possible candidates for adoptive parents and guardians.

Any bank always has working hours: you can come to the branch from 9 am to 6 pm, lunch from 2 pm to 3 pm, something like that. There is nothing like this in FBI. There is only this.

This is a page on the website adopt dot ru, where you can (if you are very lucky) make an appointment with this same FBD.

I don't know what's going on, but I only have about a dozen living examples when people spent several weeks signing up for this very FBD. And without success! A cursory Internet survey of adoptive parents revealed only one woman who was really in this FBI, and with whom she was “tinkered for an hour and a half”, which made an indelible impression on her.

All the rest, no matter how they tried to sign up through this form, could not do it.

What is the problem?

I think that the main problem is that this system does not work. Well, it’s simple: it doesn’t work and that’s it. Whether because it is wrongly done, or because employees use it incorrectly. Well, it can't be that at 10:03 the entry wasn't YET, and at 10:04 it wasn't ALREADY. What, in one minute (or less) all the slots were already occupied? I do not believe. Most likely, the software is just buggy, huh?

A large number of people in the country can take advantage of the right to adopt. Motivation in this situation can be completely different. However, it is worth understanding that such a procedure can change life forever. Before the database of children for adoption is viewed, it is worth properly preparing for this operation. In addition to the moral aspect, there are a sufficient number of legal formalities that need to be observed.

In many progressive countries, they have already managed to abandon such a phenomenon as baby houses or boarding schools for teenage children. There, underage children have time to shelter either relatives or simply caring citizens. Therefore, there the data bank of children for adoption is empty, if necessary, they are looking for children outside their countries.

The reasons that prompted people to embark on this path may be different. And it is not always possible to find out the true motives from future adoptive parents. The search for children for adoption, a data bank for this will be involved, or personal meetings will have to be used, it can be delayed for someone for many months. Less often there are situations when a few weeks are spent on the procedure.

The reasons why they decided to take a non-blooded child into the family have an individual justification, they can be combined into some groups:

due to some illness, the spouse cannot give birth to a child on her own and agrees with her husband to take such a step as adoption;
a complete family with children wants to do good by making the orphan happy;
parents who have lost their children strive to raise a helper for themselves in old age;
an underage mother who has given birth to a child gives it up for adoption to her mother, in fact, the baby's grandmother, so that he grows up among close people;
relatives or acquaintances of adults with a child tend to take a particular baby to them, taking care of his future fate;
wealthy childless people want to raise a successor and heir to the family.

newborn babies

The most in demand by age are very young children. Information about them is also placed by the federal database of children for adoption. Often they are chosen by younger parents in order to independently engage in children's upbringing, to form habits, manners, etc.

You can take a child into custody database or from the maternity hospital at any age. Often mothers of refuseniks certify documents for renunciation of maternal rights right in the maternity hospital. Information about the child and his health after a while becomes available to potential new parents.

Important! Babies require special conditions that they need to organize for the initial difficult period of mutual adaptation.

Such children require much more attention to themselves and responsibility from newly-made parents. Requirements for such babies do not differ from generally accepted standards:

adoptive parents must be of age;
the family must have its own living space of sufficient size;
livelihood and constant work are needed;
you will need to provide a certificate of no criminal record;
both parents confirm physical and spiritual health;
future dad and mom should not have bad habits;
the difference in age with the baby is allowed at least 16 years;
Citizens of countries with legal same-sex marriages are not allowed to adopt;
parents must not be deprived of parental rights or have the experience of returning adopted children.

To confirm good health, you will need to undergo a medical examination.

How to find the base of children

In all children's educational institutions in which babies are without parents and can be adopted, there are questionnaires for each pupil. Such files contain photographs, date of birth, a small description of the character, any habits or special features.

The prepared file is sent to the nearest guardianship authorities. Further, the information through the regional office enters the federal adoption data bank in Russia. It should be borne in mind that the description indicated in the questionnaire is subjective information, which may not always fully or correctly reflect the real state of affairs.

This may be due not only to the unscrupulous attitude of employees to their work, but also to the fact that the habits and character of the child may manifest themselves differently or completely change over time. Therefore, after the bank of children for adoption in Russia has been checked, it is worth visiting the kids you like in person.

Step-by-step instructions for adoption from the maternity hospital

Having set out to become foster parents of a small child, it is necessary to take into account the fact that there is a certain queue in this area. A positive result should be expected only after the biological mother signs the necessary documentary refusal.

The actions of the adoptive parents should then be carried out according to the following algorithm:

the couple must be registered in a certain order of the same waiting couples in the guardianship and guardianship authorities;
in the same place, in the PLO, they issue special forms for the passage of a medical examination for moms and dads;
in addition, it will be necessary to draw up a package of documents for submission to the PLO;
after passing through all these formalities, you need to come to the PLO to receive a positive verdict from the employees of the state agency.

In addition to preparing documents, a commission from the PLO will check the condition of the living conditions in which the baby is supposed to grow up. The time it takes to review the documents takes about two weeks. After this period, a final answer will be obtained. Then it remains to wait for the onset of your turn for the refusenik.

Having documents from the PLO in hand, and waiting in line, you must go to court to file an application. If three months have not passed since the collection of all certificates, then the same collected package of documents will do. When the documents were collected more than 3 months ago, a new package will be needed.

Important! Adoptive parents do not pay any state duty in court, so there is no need to enclose any financial receipts. It will be enough approval from the guardianship authorities.

After the decision of the court, the child is allowed to be taken away immediately. The maternity hospital is obliged to provide a postpartum sheet, on the basis of which they apply to the registry office for a birth certificate.

In contact with

Caught in the care of the state, is currently not completely resolved. Although in recent years, thanks to the support of the state, there has been a positive trend in adoption, registration of guardianship or the placement of children in foster families, many babies are still waiting for their parents in orphanages, boarding schools and shelters. To help potential adoptive parents, a federal database of orphans and children left without parental care was formed.

FBD function

The federal data bank serves to accumulate and summarize information posted in regional systems for registering children who require guardianship. In addition, it collects information about those who have registered on these resources. Its systematic updating allows people who decide to take the baby into the family to search both in their area and in other regions.

In practice, it looks like this:

Once a child has received the official status of "orphan", which is necessary for any action related to adoption, information about him is forwarded to the district PLO (guardianship and guardianship department). Within 30 days of the receipt of the child's personal file, the local PLO must take steps to find a family for the child. If this fails, the information is sent to the regional structure of the guardianship authorities.
The territorial PLO places information about the child in the database of its region, and also searches for adoptive parents. After 30 days, if the search has not been successful, he must provide information to the federal database of orphans.

It is important to know that the transfer of data on the baby to higher authorities does not mean that the local guardianship authorities stop trying to find a foster family. Therefore, situations are not uncommon when potential guardians, or people who have chosen a baby for adoption, turning to the local PLO, find out that he has already found parents. In order to avoid such cases, parents who have already gone through the adoption procedure are advised to start the search from local or territorial data banks at their place of residence (or in another region).

FBD replenishment

At the moment, information about orphans in the FBI is updated approximately twice a month. However, the information already posted in it is not updated systematically, as a result of which potential guardians may be misled about the current status of the child (whether he can be adopted, taken under guardianship or transferred to a foster family, or perhaps he has already found his adoptive parents ). The appearance and age of the child in the photo and in life can also differ significantly (because the photos are updated even less frequently).

Therefore, the Ministry of Education and Science has developed a draft order regulating the frequency of updating the information posted in the database.

The following is currently displayed on the child's profile:

name and initial letter of the surname;
place of stay;
gender, age, anthropometric indicators;
a brief description of character traits;
is the only child or there are minor brothers and sisters;
the reason for entering the database;
photo.

Perhaps, after the entry into force of the decision, the situation will change for the better. The Ministry proposes to post on the website information about the reasons for the loss of parental care, about the existence of blood relatives who visit the child in a children's institution and who want to take him to the family. In addition, it is planned to introduce an obligation to update photos of babies, in accordance with their age, from 1 to 3 times a year.

What is required of adoptive parents

Before using the services of the database to search for a baby, future parents should collect a package of necessary documents, on the basis of which the PLO will make a decision to allow adoption or refuse it.

These include:

a brief autobiographical note;
information from the place of employment about the position of the guardian and his income for the last year (the same applies to the spouse involved in the adoption);
information on registration and / or documents on the ownership of housing, a certificate from the management company on the absence of debts for payment of utility bills;
a certificate from the police department that the potential guardian has no criminal record;
the conclusion of the medical board on the health of the adoptive parent;
marriage registration document (copy);
a copy of the certificate confirming that the potential parents attended special psychological and pedagogical courses for adoptive parents;
certificate of a pensioner and an extract from the Pension Fund for adoptive parents whose main source of income is pension payments.

The period of validity of the listed documents is 12 months from the date of issue (except for the medical certificate, which is valid for 6 months).

Adoption steps

There is a certain procedure provided for by the Family Code of the Russian Federation when registering guardianship, or transferring a child to a foster family.

1. Decision of the adoption commission

An appeal to the PLO at the place of registration with a request to consent to adoption can be submitted by personally contacting this institution, or using the MFC or the State Services portal. In this case, all necessary documents are attached to the application.

Within 7 working days from the date of receipt of the application, PLO employees assess housing conditions, analyze the motives for adoption, the personality of the applicant, his ability to care for the child and other criteria that can affect the decision to grant custody or adoption.

It is important to know that when submitting an application electronically, the applicant must subsequently submit to the DEP the originals of the documentation attached to it. Otherwise, their absence may be grounds for refusal to establish guardianship or adoption.

Based on the assessment made, the PLO, no later than 10 working days from the date of signing the survey report, issues a conclusion on the approval (refusal) of the adoption. In case of disagreement with the decision of the PLO, the applicant has the opportunity to appeal against it in a legal manner.

2. Finding a child for adoption

With a positive decision of the commission, within 3 days from the date of its adoption, potential parents are entered in the list of persons entitled to adoption and receive access to information about children who require it.

The PLO authorities issue a referral to a children's institution where the child chosen by the adoptive parents is currently staying. This direction is valid for a month and assumes that other potential parents will not communicate with the baby during this period.

If future adoptive parents failed to find a child in their regional database, they have the right to apply for the same purpose to the PLO of another subject of the Russian Federation or use the services of the FBI of orphans.

The use of a centralized database expands the possibilities for potential parents when searching for a child. After studying the information provided on the FBI website, guardians can make an online appointment to visit the federal operator for a more detailed acquaintance with the children's profiles. It is important to know that the personal presence of candidates for adoptive parents is required to study the questionnaires. In addition, you will need to present documents confirming this right (passport and decision on approval of adoption).

Potential parents acquire in the process of adoption the rights and obligations provided for by the legislation of the Russian Federation.

Adoptive parents' rights:

obtaining comprehensive information about the baby (his real parents, the circumstances that preceded obtaining the status of an orphan, existing relatives, burdened heredity, etc.);
implementation of an independent medical examination of the adopted child (with the participation of an educator / teacher of a children's institution).

Responsibilities of adoptive parents:

meet and establish communication with the baby;
carefully study the documents;
confirm in writing the fact that they are familiar with the conclusion of the medical board regarding the health of the adoptee.

Having made an informed decision about establishing custody or adoption, future parents move on to the last stage.

3. Judgment

In order to recognize the adoption of a certain child as legal, potential parents must apply with a corresponding request to the district court department at the place of residence of the baby.

To reach a verdict, judicial authorities need to obtain documents from local PLOs confirming that the adoption takes place on the basis of taking into account the interests and rights of the adopted child. As a result, a verdict is issued on the recognition of the fact of adoption, which leads to the entry into force of the rights and obligations of the participants in the process in relation to each other.

After that, the parents personally pick up the child from the children's institution (upon presentation of a passport and a court decision) in order to send him to a new place of residence. For 3 years from the date of the adoption by the court of a decision on adoption, PLOs are obliged to control the living conditions and upbringing of the adopted child.

Summing up

The decision to take a child into the family is a very serious and responsible step that requires the utmost honesty in assessing one's strengths and capabilities. And first of all, this concerns not material, but moral costs for raising a baby, regardless of whether he is native or adopted. The adoption procedure itself, with its bureaucratic obstacles, the control of the PLO, the problem of choosing “one's own” child, is a difficult psychological test. But if there is no doubt about the correctness of your decision, if you are ready to go through all the tests to the end, then there will be one more happy baby in the world.

A person's life cannot be called complete until he has raised a healthy child for procreation. This simple rule is laid down by nature, and no modern trends can change the program established at the genetic level. If a couple does not have the opportunity to have their own child, there is a way out of this situation - the adoption of other people's babies left without parents.

Legislative regulation of adoption in Russia

Every boy or girl left in Russia without parental care falls under the supervision of guardianship authorities. Babies receive the necessary medical and psychological support. Depending on their age, children are placed in special educational institutions where orphans live. From maternity wards, children are sent to orphanages; at the age of three, babies are transferred to orphanages, orphanages, boarding schools, and social rehabilitation centers for further adoption.

Nevertheless, no matter how well the work of social services is organized, orphanages will not replace a full-fledged family for a child. The main task of the state is to properly organize the process of adoption of orphans with careful control and selection of candidates for the role of new parents.

The main requirements for candidates:

Stable financial position. The family income must provide a living wage for all its members, including those adopted. The living area of the family is assessed taking into account the possibility of comfortable living for a foster child.
Physical and mental health. The absence of dangerous chronic diseases and disabilities is confirmed by a medical certificate. It is not allowed for the adoptive parent to be registered in psycho-neurological or narcological dispensaries.
No past convictions for both spouses or facts of deprivation of parental rights. Be sure to take into account the previous experience of raising their own or adopted children. To give an adopted child back to the state means to close the further possibility of adoption.
Successful schooling for foster parents (more details in the article:). Referral to training courses can be obtained from the social security authorities. Foster parents can choose a course on their own or on the recommendation of social workers. After training, a special certificate is issued.

The guardianship authorities carefully study the entire package of documents and decide on the possibility of the candidate to adopt a child from an orphanage. If the decision is positive, you can start choosing a baby and getting to know him.

Where to find a child?

It is recommended to start the search for children with the guardianship and guardianship authorities at the place of residence of the couple. The state structure has all the operational information about orphans who need adoption in their territory. According to the established regulations, local authorities are given 30 days to place a child, after which they send information to the regional data bank (RDB).

If, for some reason, adoptive parents want a child from another region, they can contact the guardianship authorities of that region or the regional data operator. In the Russian Federation there are no restrictions on a territorial basis - spouses from Arkhangelsk can easily find a child from the Samara data bank or Vladivostok.

It is very convenient to search for a child on Internet resources where photographs, video questionnaires and catalogs of orphans are published; video passports are very popular today. The most famous information resources:

Federal Databank of Children without Parental Care and Orphans

The federal data bank (FBD) contains official information about all children left without care (we recommend reading:). Currently, there are about fifty thousand children who are waiting for adoption. Questionnaires and passports can be found on the website of the Ministry of Education and Science of the Russian Federation - www.usinovite.ru.

The personal data of babies contains the following information:

name, gender, date of birth of the child;
physical characteristics, height, weight, hair color;
information about the health of the child;
possible form of admission to the family;
reasons for admission to the orphanage;
current photo.

It should be borne in mind that the last paragraph is updated no more than once a year. Detailed information is protected by the law on the protection of personal data and is provided upon personal contact with the relevant services. On the site you can find the contacts of responsible organizations and employees.

Purposes of the databank

The main goal of the federal data bank is to make it easier for potential adoptive parents to find a child suitable for them according to all criteria, to reduce the time spent by children in an orphanage, and to create a single catalog of babies in need of guardianship. Data updates occur each time a happy adopted child finds a new family. The base is replenished when new questionnaires are received from regional structures. Using the resources of the resource, you can save time on personal visits to specialists.

How to use?

By setting the necessary search parameters, you can select all the profiles of babies who can be adopted today. You can get information about the child and get to know him personally only by contacting the coordinates indicated on the site. Each child not yet adopted is assigned to a specific department of guardianship.

By the time of applying for a specific candidate, parents must have the conclusion of the guardianship authorities on recognizing them as suitable for adoption. The responsible officer gives a referral to visit the educational institution in which the child is kept.

After a personal meeting and getting to know the baby, potential parents are identified and decide on adoption (or adoption). If their expectations are met and their heart tells that the child is suitable, the next step is to file an application with the court to consider the issue of adoption. The decision of the court is the basis for registering documents in the registry office and transferring the child from the orphanage to the place of permanent residence.

Non-state charitable foundations

Non-governmental organizations and associations that help to adopt or adopt an adopted child provide more and more assistance to the state. Their main advantage is the ability to make high-quality, detailed video questionnaires and video passports, easy-to-use Internet resources. The bases of funds are not as complete as the state ones, but the quality of the information provided is much higher. In addition, they create additional services for future adoptive parents, communities of interest, interactive address cards, libraries of useful information.

The stories of adoptive parents usually begin with the phrase: "And then we saw our sun ..." And most people do not like to talk about what preceded the meeting with the baby. The search for "your" baby is a psychologically very complex process, and it is simply painful for many to remember or talk about him. However, it makes sense for potential adoptive parents to prepare for possible problems in advance. Although this is not so easy to do.

When my husband and I talked about the desire to adopt a child, he said one phrase to me: "I like everything about this idea. But choosing a child like on the market is scary." I have to say, I ignored his words. Like, what can you do? It's inevitable, that's how the system works. However, in reality it turned out that it would be better to prepare for a meeting with this system, to understand how it works and what psychological traps you can fall into.

A little about the system

I will try to explain "on the fingers" how the system works, in which there is information about orphans.

In order for a baby to be placed in a family, he must receive orphan status. If the parents officially abandoned the baby, he can be adopted, taken under guardianship or in a foster family. However, many children do not have status because they still legally have a connection with their biological parents. For example, a biomother is in places of deprivation of liberty, and it is impossible to deprive her of her rights, even if before that she had not visited the child in an orphanage and was not interested in his fate. Or the child's parents have just been deprived of their rights, and the period during which they can appeal against the court decision, "change their minds" has not yet expired. In these and other cases, the baby can be taken under guardianship or in a foster family.

When a baby receives the status "to be placed in a family", he has his own file and is attached to the district guardianship of the institution in which he ended up, i.e. orphanage or children's home. Within a month, the district guardianship should try to arrange the child in a family, and if she failed, transfer information about him to the regional data bank (for example, from the guardianship of the district in a city near Moscow to the bank of the Moscow region). If this operator does not find new parents within a month, he is obliged to transfer information to the Federal Data Bank www.usynovite.ru

Important! The transfer of data about the child to a higher organization does not mean that the district guardianship or the regional bank ceases to care about his placement in the family. It is also important: the regional or federal data bank has the right to give you a referral to visit the child, but it will still coordinate this issue with the district guardianship: what if someone has already started visiting the child by contacting the district directly? Suddenly, the biomother decided to restore her rights? Control calls to guardianship in this situation protect both the adoptive parent and the child from severe stressful situations.

Databanks

The function of the regional and federal banks is clear: to collect information about children in one place. However, in practice, information and its updating are delayed. As a result, large banks may not know that, for example, a child has already received adoption status - and they still list him as subject only to guardianship and guardianship. Thus, if you look through the profiles of children "with an eye on adoption", you may overlook some babies. Or that the child is visited by potential parents - people who establish contact with the baby, but have not yet signed the consent. The database of children is not updated daily, but once a week or less, depending on the region.

What happens to a potential adopter in this situation?

First, the search for a child is a psychological test in itself. Many still in the process of collecting documents look through regional or federal databases and are already mentally attached to a specific child from a photograph. And this is understandable: the decision was made rather difficult, the procedure drags on, it is natural for a person to worry and do at least something that will bring him closer to the unborn baby. However, by the time potential parents have a package of documents, the baby may already be placed in a family. This is serious stress.

You can only avoid it if you force yourself to distract yourself from a particular child by an effort of will: do not look through the database, do not draw this particular baby in your life for yourself, do not return time after time to the photo in the newspaper from the "Looking for mom and dad" section. Many adoptive parents have gone through the experience of disappointment "the child was taken by someone else" - at these moments it is worth remembering that it is your baby who will certainly wait for you. Adoptive parents are familiar with mystical stories when a variety of children were taken from a child's home, and some absolutely wonderful, practically healthy child could not wait for his mother for a long time, although objectively there was no logic in this. Or someone fought with officials for a long time, hurried paperwork, got delays, which is called "out of the blue", and then found a baby whose adoption status appeared exactly when the mother had all the papers ready - and get she had them before, they wouldn't have met. Apparently, foster children, like relatives, do not appear in our lives by chance, and fate disposes of us correctly.

Secondly, many of those who applied to regional data banks simply cannot understand where the children are. They show wonderful babies on TV, cute faces are printed in newspapers, and in the bank (pardon the cynicism) there are completely seriously ill children or children from large families that you are not ready to adopt. There are rumors that officials "keep" children in the interests of foreign adoptive parents, but this is not true. It’s just that because of the red tape about many children, information is not updated, it’s just that on the ground, good specialists from guardianships arrange babies in families on their own, it’s just that quite often data on a child’s health is given in the form of dry facts, without adjusting for the fact that a baby who has experienced deprivation, simply cannot develop normally - so the list of diagnoses can be scarier than the real picture.

Communication with officials

It’s unpleasant to write about it, but you can’t hide an awl in a bag. Far from all instances of adoptive parents are waiting with open arms. It also happens that you come to the data bank and find yourself in a strange atmosphere: as if you came to ask the state for a million dollars for personal needs. They are extremely dismissive, ask questions outside the scope of their own competence. In this situation, it makes sense to remember your rights: you have your passport with you and the conclusion of the district guardianship that you can be a candidate for adoptive parents - this is enough. Your identity, details of your personal life, motives for adoption, etc. operator is not affected. You have every right not to answer personal questions. And what you definitely shouldn’t do is feel guilty, and this often happens to those who adopt a child because they cannot have children of their own, and at the same time, more than once in the process of collecting documents, they were forced to explain themselves to officials of various instances. I once had to hold the hands of an elderly couple and tell them: "Guys, you are completely normal, remember this. The desire to raise a child is the most important thing."

In some regional centers, you need to stand in line to view the database: that is, you first come to the reception, your documents are meticulously examined, and only after that they set a date when you will be allowed to view the database for children. Moreover, the viewing time is limited by the conditions of the operator, and not by your desire and capabilities. You also need to be prepared for this and survive the moment when the search for a child turns into a computer game for attention and speed.

Obviously, the efficiency of officials' work is measured by the number of displayed questionnaires. Therefore, the database does not allow, for example, to exclude children with severe disabilities from viewing the questionnaire, etc. - all this, along with photographs, you will see and say "next", "next, please." Because of this, a visit to a regional center turns into a situation where you can imagine how many disabled children there are in this region and see it in their faces. You also need to be prepared for this - the test is not for the faint of heart. Just give yourself an attitude and immediately present it to the operator: he will quickly close the profiles that are not of interest to you, and you will say to yourself: this is not my child, I am looking for my child. How then to forget that there are hundreds of children who are unlikely to find a family - I do not know. But when you find your baby, when you build a life with him, the acute feeling of this horror will gradually dissipate.

People with a keen linguistic sense need to be prepared for local slang, which can hurt them. Often, sick kids, whose profiles will still show you "to the heap" can be called dismissively, the process of finding a child is called "selection." "Who's next for the selection? Did you sign up for the selection?" If possible, ignore it - have you learned to ignore the wonderful slang of domestic gynecologists from the series: "How old do you live?"

Perhaps it is him!

At the regional operator or in the district guardianship, candidates for adoptive parents are obliged to acquaint them with data on children that meet its requirements. You can say this about the requirements: the softer they are, the more likely it is to find a baby. However, you have the right to look for a child exactly the way you want - everyone has their own way: one person says "any, more or less healthy years up to five", the other - "only a fair-haired boy up to six months." But everyone eventually finds their children. This is the main thing, and it is not worth reflecting on the topic “do I formulate correctly”.

So, you should be given as much information as possible about the children that you are interested in. In regional banks, it is more scarce, since it is sent in the form of a dry form, which reflects the main facts of the child's biography and conclusions about the state of health. In guardianships, many children are known personally, they maintain contact with the orphanage or orphanage, they can make a call in front of you and ask any question to the leadership of the orphanage - this is important.

A perfectly reasonable question arises: how to communicate with those who have information about children? What to ask? What to pay attention to?

Age and gender. It all depends on your desire. Giving recommendations from the outside is a completely pointless exercise. It is believed that an adopted child should not be older than the native, if one already exists. However, there are examples of successful adoption and contrary to this rule.
Information about status and biofamily. In guardianship, these questions are answered very clearly. How did the child get the status for adoption? Will there be obstacles from other blood relatives (for example, the biological grandmother may not be able to take the child into custody, but she goes to visit him at the child's home)? In other words, can you get into trouble in court.
The health status of the child. This is the most subtle moment. Perhaps there is not a single child who would be completely healthy. All children have a delay in mental and physical development - and this is completely normal. The question is, what caused this delay? Try to learn the history of the life and development of the child. For example, it is quite natural that a baby who is in poor health develops poorly intellectually - he is constantly in the isolation ward, he does not even see the staff and other children, not to mention the fact that no one pays attention to him, as happens in family. Naturally, he will lag behind very, very much. In general, "developmental delay" is not a reason to abandon this particular child. Many successful adoptive parents know how many diagnoses simply “evaporated” as soon as the baby got comfortable at home. At the same time, in children's homes, of course, there are many children who have really gross pathologies that cannot be completely and completely cured.

Roughly speaking, if the child has everything in order with the status and there is no disability, you still have to look at him with your own eyes and, excuse the pathos, draw a conclusion for yourself: do you believe in him and in yourself or not. Because a child in a children's institution is so depressed, the life of a little man is so unnatural, so contrary to what is really needed for the development of his personality, that a failure in development is the norm, and it is almost impossible to understand how the baby will develop in the future. Only one thing is true: better than in a state institution.

At the moment when you decide whether to take a referral to meet your baby, you are in the grip of strong emotions. Firstly, you are very sorry for this little one - each of the orphans has a difficult life story, everyone wants to give love and warmth, we feel a little guilty in front of everyone simply because we are big, and everything is not so with us bad, and they are small, and they have no one and nothing. However, remember that ecstatic feeling alone will not help you make the right decision. Therefore, be prepared to take breaks in advance. We received information about one or more children - take a time out for a day to digest this in your head and decide whether or not to take a referral. Get a referral - take time out to go meet your child in a relaxed state.

If you decide, you will be given a referral to visit the child. It is usually valid for a month, at the end of which you must make a decision and notify the guardian. At this time, other willing adoptive parents will not be able to meet with the child.

Discussion

The author of the article "respect and respect." Thank God we have already found our children. We are from Moscow, we found the children in Rostov-on-Don. Everything that the author described is the complete and unconditional truth. It seems that all officials work under a capirka. I would add that the guardianship staff and the regional operator in Moscow, and in the Moscow region, constantly told us: “You won’t find normal children in Moscow. Try your luck in Siberia or the Far East. Only the very sick or "black ones" remained in Moscow. Hmm, Fascism with Russian nationalism in Russia is not a myth, but a reality, even in such matters as adoption and guardianship, they try to emphasize that Russia is for bald-haired Russians, and all the rest .... "black" and "yellow" let them go to waste. And, by the way, we found our children with "southern" blood, not through a fucking APIRATOR, but on the Internet, on the official website. Good luck to everyone, patience and once again be patient and everything will be fine.
Sincerely,
Anatoly.

And everyone decides for himself what he can and what not ...
In my opinion, the author only wanted to convey the emotions of regret, a person who cannot take a disabled person, and therefore scrolls faster further ...

And about the pension of 3,000, there was a topic on TV with a deputy on social issues, I was surprised by the comparison of 20,000 and 3,000, the mother of a suicidal child was indignant, whom she could not leave alone at home to go to earn some money, but on a professional a nurse, did not earn money, and the mother had to send the child to a boarding school, so that there would be an opportunity to earn money for gifts, no one from the studio dared to condemn her. There was one question, would they give my mother a pension of 20,000 rubles, she did not have to send the child to a boarding school ...

The deputy was able to comment only in this way: “It turns out that if a child is left at home, then the parents have the opportunity to raise him.”...

I do not see any categorical! There are no statements in the article: “Don't do this, don't do that”, there are no short sentences, there is a brief description of emotions and actions. Not in the first person, because the person helped other parents, whose experiences were also used.

Personally, as a person who has not yet established himself in the decision to adopt someone else's child, I am interested in any information.

The place where it is described about children with disabilities, and what else can you experience besides pain and regret that you cannot help?
I will give an example, as a fact, an institution allocates an amount of 20,000 rubles for a disabled person, and in a family a child will receive a pension of 3,000 rubles - who will pull it? In order to take care of a disabled child, you need not to work and provide constant care !, you can’t take him to kindergarten! don't leave home alone!

Causes some doubts about the statement:
>, but in fact agrees?! I have not noticed. I noticed something else - guardianship and DR do not "like" reg. and fed. operators, they are paid in return.
> What is true that they do not hold?! Where such confidence?
The rest of the article is positive. IMHO. Only it would be to expand it, to add moments of examples from adoption (guardianship) successful without delay and not successful with rudeness and with "kicking" through the authorities.

Good article: efficient and timely. It was written in order to morally support the adoptive parents and inspire hope that everyone will find their child. It did not seem to me that the author claims to be a lawyer, does not speak categorically, just draws attention to some points. The main thing that sets up a constructive approach. And if a person is confident that he is right, it is easier for him to hold on with dignity and he can calmly delve into the legal subtleties on his own. Thanks to the author!

It's a good idea to familiarize yourself with the laws before you start writing articles with legal advice. The direction is really not a month, but 10 days. For example, for newborns who are taken because they simulate pregnancy, a month for one of the candidates is too much. Other statements of the author are subjective and doubtful. It would be better to rewrite it - to change all "you will see" to "I saw", and as an example of personal experience and personal perception, it would still be tolerable.