You just need to believe in the good. School of Life: What is self-confidence? How to believe in yourself

Hwhat is self-confidence? How to believe in yourself? How to always be confident?

Belief in yourself, or Many options for believing in yourself

First, self-confidence is achieved by knowing the truth about yourself, about your true life goals and values, about your innermost desires and urgent needs. If you are filled with love and beautiful inner values that reflect all the true aspirations of your heart, then you have no reason to doubt yourself. After all, what is doubt in this case. Doubt is the pursuit of false goals. You can be mistaken at the moment of forming your true life goals or a system of internal values. This delusion is the result of insincerity towards oneself. Therefore, in order to dispel doubts, you must always be honest with yourself. The truth will dispel all doubts and strengthen your faith in yourself. Knowing the truth about yourself will enable you to ignore external negative influences on you from other people or events. You will understand that this has nothing to do with you and that this is the result of a negative perception of the world by other people.

Secondly, self-confidence is achieved through a sincere attitude towards other people. If your words, deeds and actions in relation to other people are filled with sincerity and love and you are guided by high human principles in resolving difficult life situations, then you have no reason to doubt. After all, what is doubt in this case. Doubt arises when you have committed a sin or a bad deed, allowed negative thoughts in relation to other people, ignored or prevented the realization of their life values and needs, desires and aspirations. All this will not give you rest. But if your words, thoughts and actions towards other people are impeccable and bring peace, justice, kindness, acceptance and love, then this will dispel any doubts and strengthen your faith in yourself.

Thirdly, faith in oneself does not tolerate not only lies in relation to oneself and others, but also betrayal or deviation from one's inner life values. Therefore, your faith in yourself is strengthened by being faithful to your inner life values and following them. In addition, your self-confidence will be strengthened by people who have a system of internal values close to yours and are on the same level of personal growth with you. Surround yourself with such people, and you will find yourself in a circle of like-minded people and friends who, together with confidence, will bring you the joy of communication and many happy moments of understanding and unity.

Recently I watched another series of KITCHEN, so there was just such a moment about what is bad and what is good. The chef's daughter was crying and complaining to the chef that everything was bad with her, she was to blame for everything, she attracted troubles and that she was the most unhappy person in the whole wide world. To this, the cook answered her that she was the most ordinary girl, she just sees everything from the other side. For example, she believes that her dad has gone crazy, at 50 he decided to have another child with a young waitress, he is a goat, and the cook answered her that she should be glad that her dad is still hoo, he is well done, he decided begin new life! So you try to find something positive in the bad: the guy left, oh trouble, left me, uuuu ... but on the other hand, cheers, freedom, I will do what I want, with whom I want, I will go where I want (to Disney -land, go for sure, you’ll be blown away, or “they stole my wallet, bastards,” but on the other hand, someone was lucky now, there were 2000 rubles in the wallet, after all, they regretted their pants, but the thief will ...

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Magic is believing in yourself. And when you succeed, everything else succeeds. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

If we begin to sift through the sieve of analysis all the useful qualities that we would like to have, we will see that faith in ourselves turns out to be a real gold nugget. You can be the smartest the most beautiful person, a strong athlete or a resourceful entrepreneur, but without self-confidence, all these personality traits will never be able to manifest themselves to the fullest.

We can say that faith in yourself is the foundation, the fertile ground on which the tree of your success grows, both in the professional sphere and in your personal life. It is closely related to such concepts as self-esteem and self-respect, the foundations of which are laid in early childhood. However, this does not mean at all that we cannot develop them at a more mature age. In this article, we want you...

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Faith... Is it necessary to believe in the best?

For me, faith is the most important thing in a person's life! Without it, there would be no love, people, and life in general. We must try to believe in the best, try to think that we can all do it, we will succeed, and everything will be fine. These three reasoning are part of the meaning of faith. In the life of any person there are many unexpected cases in which you need to try to believe in yourself, and, in fact, in the people you trust. Many times I had such cases that I had no choice, goal ... but I believed ... believed, that over time I will find myself, I will discover that truth in myself .... In emergency situations, a person will certainly be confused, there are many cases when one faith saves, .... hope ....... Everyone abandoned you .. .The whole world turned away from you in the opposite direction, you are nobody, you are compared to a tiny helpless insect, but in the soul and in the heart SHE is still there! Yes, yes She, Vera!!! We gathered all our strength and believed ... We believed in the best. Faith saved us. we have begun...

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There are probably dozens and more similar topics, but still I want to speak out. Have you ever had situations when you were completely disappointed in everything, gave up, had no desire to do anything, and indeed live in general? How did you pull yourself together when you were unlucky in almost everything? I can’t cope with myself and put my life and thoughts in order (I constantly console others, and I try myself that someday everything will be fine, everything will work out, dreams will come true, there will be joy in life. But in fact, nothing changes (
The situation is this - complaining about life is a sin: everyone is alive, healthy, everything is fine - this is the most important thing.
but in my life, as far as I remember, there is always some kind of decline: there have never been real friends, now there are none at all, in love I was unlucky and unlucky, therefore, and serious relationship hasn't happened in 20 years. relations with parents are strained. In general, loneliness has always been important for me. I always felt uncomfortable in society - neither at school nor at the university. largely...

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In almost every person, in his biography - external or internal - there is something so shameful, which is painful and scary to remember, but which inevitably pops up sometimes in memory and in feelings, poisoning existence. And even if there is such a person who self-satisfiedly declares that there is and has never been anything like this in his life, then, most likely, the memory of shameful actions or wishes is simply overshadowed in this person by self-confidence, which does not tolerate the realization of his own insignificance. Moreover, it is often the most "correct" people who are the most cruel tyrants, but they refuse to understand this with the stubbornness of a blind man who denies the existence of light.

But here's the question: does the presence of dark events in a person's life mean that he can be evaluated precisely through the prism of these facts, seen and considered as a nonentity? This may be partly true, but a person is multi-component in his external and internal biography. And the integrity of his personal history...

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My story is very long, but I will try to make it shorter and not very sad...
She found out that she was pregnant somewhere in the month of June ... the relationship with the father of the child (now her husband) was long (4 years) and not entirely smooth ... well, by the way, like everyone else.
Why we didn’t get married before, I don’t know, it’s just that everything suits us anyway ...
The first month I was overwhelmed with fears, hormones blew the roof, I almost hated him, we quarreled, I said that I should have gotten married earlier, that I don’t want to “over the air” ....
And if it weren’t for my mother, I don’t know where I would have brought him and myself. We must give him his due, he endured and waited for me to go crazy ...
That’s exactly what I want to tell about my mother ... I don’t know how to start, it’s very difficult ...
I won’t describe our relationship with her, I won’t describe everything, and it’s painful to remember ... I’ll just say that she was the best mother, rather she was my sister, friend, best, most cheerful, sensitive person ... in short, I don’t know how else to describe ... I loved her madly. and then on September 2, she simply died ....
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Do not forget that life is not one day. If it didn't work out today, tomorrow things will be different. Friends forgot to call - there will be time and you will not call. All the clouds that are gathering over our heads are all temporary. Difficulties must be overcome.

“It happens that wherever you look, everything is bad. Hands down, I don’t feel like doing anything, my heart is sad and, as luck would have it, my friends don’t call, there’s a blockage at work, and a nightmare on TV, the pictures taken by my beloved Sony DSC-TX55 disappeared without a trace on the PC. - writes the site growth.in.ua. And what to do when everything is bad? How to get out of this state when it's bad at heart? What to do?

We offer you a number of tips and we hope you will find the answer for yourself what to do when everything is bad.

1. Think only positive things.

Remember, absolutely everyone can change their life. Only desire is needed. And to change your whole life you need to start with your own thoughts. If you constantly think about only bad things, it will come to you. You many times...

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Instruction

Don't try to target areas where you are vulnerable. Focus on improving the skills of what you already know at least a little. Even a slight realization that you can do something will strengthen faith in yourself. Let's say you play the piano well, then learn new pieces or learn new playing techniques.

Talk to someone who is kind to you. It can be a mother, wife, grandmother ... Your task is to understand the weak and strengths myself. Ask specific questions, say, in what situation, in which your close person was a witness, I showed myself worthy. Write down the answers. This will also help you learn about those of your abilities that you did not know about, or that you did not take seriously.

For an objective assessment of your actions, do not deny the obvious, do not try to find only positive aspects in everything. Distance yourself from past attitudes and change your habitual pattern of thinking. It is worth admitting your doubts, and fixing on ...

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Today we’ll talk about what to do with our own despondency, sadness, pessimism, when there is only bad news around. This is a continuation of yesterday's topic that some people are specifically looking for reasons to be sad. Yesterday I wrote more about situations when everything seems to be stable, but a person does not have enough bad news in his life or he prefers to read only them.

But what if the bad news is specific to you?

I read the blogs of Moscow friends and almost all of them publish photos of the views from their own windows - the smog from burning peat bogs and fires near Moscow, which seemed to be outrageous yesterday, has become even thicker today. I look out my own window and realize how lucky I am! And I really empathize with people who lose their health. If you have the opportunity, then still try to leave Moscow and the Moscow region for a while! If not, then try not to leave the house, use thick (8 layers) cotton-gauze bandages and respirators. Hang balconies at home and ...

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How to tune in to positive and start enjoying life: recharge with optimism

Each of us has situations when everything just falls out of hand, problems are overcome, and there is no way out. Even the meaning of life is lost, just hopeless longing!

There can be many reasons for this condition: difficulties at work and an unsuccessful personal life, depression associated with the change of seasons, fatigue that develops into chronic, health problems. The more we complain about life, the more it gives us unpleasant surprises, and it seems that everything is only getting worse ...

How to set yourself up for positive? How to break out vicious circle hopelessness?

The way we relate to our life, with faith in the good or the negative, largely determines the entire further course of our destiny. The one who constantly whines, whines and annoys, as a rule, never achieves something significant in life. And vice versa, those who are optimistic, going through life with a smile, easily ...

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Pearl said:

Dear Eugene!
Thank you for your interesting thoughts, sincere desire to breathe the joy of life into gloomy souls Thank you for your article, which you so self-critically called writing
You are probably a talented psychologist (it doesn’t matter if it’s written in your diploma or not quite like that) You are great at HELPING RAKE Difficult problems with simple phrases!
I'm only 20 years old and I think it's not too late to change my life for the better... my outlook on life!!!
I decided to start my changes, taking two words as a credo: “Lightness and depth”. Living is EASY, as if I can handle any problems (and the way it is!) Do not get upset, never lose heart, do not judge, notice more joy than negativity! Be light and share this lightness.
Live FEELING DEEPLY. Do not avoid serious things, responsibility, strong emotions ...
After all, lightness and depth are compatible?
I hope I'm not mistaken and I chose the right path
In any case, your...

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Hello, dear readers and admirers of the portal Sila-Misli.ru! Today is a beautiful snowy day outside the window, and we have a new technique for fulfilling desires. In the last article, we looked at two very important rules achieving goals, ideas and plans according to Mark Allen's book "The Biggest Secret".

About how hard I got it, who is Mark Allen; I already spoke. So, Mark Allen (a millionaire, by the way. We don’t keep others :-) discovered 4 steps to fulfill your dream:

Dream Imagine Believe Create

Exactly in that order. Where do we usually start? Let's get creative right away! And then we wonder why everything went wrong? About,

I have already mentioned all this in a previous article. Let's move on to the next two steps.

Believe in the fulfillment of desire

What to do when everything is very bad

Step 1 - Don't panic or get discouraged

The more we panic, the more we make mistakes and worsen our situation. Despondency and depression take away the strength to deal with circumstances. Keeping your cool is difficult, but it will be the surest thing to do under the circumstances.

Step 2 - Don't fight with anyone

In such periods, everyone usually has nerves on the aisle and it’s easy to break loose on someone. But in order not to be left alone in difficult times, it’s better not to swear, if possible, with your ...

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Currently, there is a lot of literature on this issue. In some books we find specific advice on how to become a successful and self-confident individual. Others are dominated by endless discussions about what faith is, in general and in particular, but how to love yourself and be confident is not understood. It also happens that different sources contradict each other and express diametrically opposed points of view. It seems that getting to the bottom of the issue is incredibly difficult or even impossible.

What is self-confidence? How delightful it is to be a self-confident and determined person, because only then you begin to truly live! Many doors open that were previously closed. You feel yourself in the harmonious flow of the universe, and you know that you are walking your own path, you are in right time and in the right place. You feel imperturbable calm and the inner core of your own strength. It's so wonderful!

How to reach this state?

First, you need to figure out who you are. Are you afraid of the manifestation of your own self? Are you avoiding yourself? Do you accept yourself with your shortcomings, mistakes, mistakes, weaknesses? Can you really be yourself?

Probably, very often you have heard such questions, but the thing is that people perceive the answers to them and the questions themselves differently. Being yourself is an inner conviction that only a few have experienced and accepted with all their hearts.

We are constantly looking for ourselves, mainly imitating someone, especially since the Internet and television are full of such samples. Someone dyes their hair, changes their hairstyle, trying to find that ideal image of themselves (note that it is the “image”, and not themselves) and does not find it, or endlessly changes the wardrobe, unable to stop, as if faith in oneself is some stunning external effect that opens all doors for us.
It seems that the path from the outer to the inner is the shortest and surest. In fact, the result obtained quickly ceases to satisfy us, because it is artificial. In search of our outer self, we often simply run from ourselves. We do not want to be ourselves, and therefore do not believe in ourselves.

What makes us run? What prevents us from stopping and just looking into ourselves?
In most cases, the answer is simple - fear. Its nature and origin may be different, but once we manage to pull it out of our consciousness, we can hear our true voice.

Fear is the noise that prevents you from hearing your true voice. Our minds are constantly talking to ourselves. The human mind is designed this way. The inner "critic", or rather even the "critic", who constantly compares and condemns, in fact, has nothing to do with our true nature, takes us away from our self. Any criticism that sounds in our head takes strength. All this is "interference" in our air. In order not to allow "criticism" to rule over us, we need to accept ourselves totally, here and now. Through accepting ourselves as we are now, we can finally hear ourselves. This is a necessary step if we really want to experience what self-confidence is. As soon as we eliminate the noise, remove the excess, our internal mechanism will start up and start working in the right direction. This mechanism transforms us not only from the inside. It changes our eyes, our smile, our laughter, even our walk! This cannot be achieved by any external effects! Ultimately, this process inevitably leads us to ourselves. This is our second birth, if you will.

Someone comes to this himself, someone turns to a psychologist for help. But one way or another, our task is to find and cut off the superfluous, alluvial, then our unburdened nature works wonders. And, finally, it clears the place for love, which opens the right doors and gives strength. Security, calmness, courage and at the same time warmth and happiness become your constant companions. Isn't that true self-confidence?

Self-confidence is a person's belief that he will succeed. Self-confidence in the face of a challenge, a difficult task.
Belief in yourself is the starting component of any success.

"Empty" Faith

Faith in one's own strength, faith in oneself is already a great achievement. However, it’s not enough just to learn to believe in yourself, you also need to learn along the way and master the skills necessary for success. If there are no necessary skills, but there is faith in oneself - this is an “empty” faith, it is like a house without a foundation: it can stand for a short time, but then it will fall anyway. Faith in yourself is a great start-up capital, you need to develop and grow it further, and then faith in yourself will not disappear.

How and why do people destroy faith in themselves

Some people destroy their faith in themselves. As a rule, after that they are busy destroying faith in themselves among those around them and especially people close to them.

How to find (return) faith in yourself?

Self-confidence is sought by people with a romantic approach to business. Responsible people are not engaged in the search for faith in themselves, but in goal setting, accumulation of resources and work. There is no need to look for faith in yourself: it is not stored anywhere ready for you. But if you create it, develop it, you will have it.

How to develop faith in yourself

The main direction is to gain knowledge, skills, life experience, to become really more successful and effective.

An auxiliary direction is the ability to see one's own merits, to feel one's strength.

To develop self-confidence, it is useful:

* Keep a notebook of successes, where to write down all your achievements.

* Change vocabulary: instead of problems - tasks, instead of shortcomings - features.

* Write out your virtues in 10 pieces every day. Do not repeat!

* Deal with limiting beliefs

(I can't, I'm not given, I can't)

* Break down global goals into small ones, rejoice even in small victories.

* Work with the body: keep your posture, do not slouch your shoulders.

* Make an action plan that moves you forward and start doing it.

Belief in yourself and self-esteem

Self-esteem and self-confidence are not the same thing, but things are strongly interconnected. Usually, increasing self-esteem strengthens self-confidence, and vice versa.

At young man there may be low self-esteem - he understands that he does not yet have a quality education, his appearance is ordinary, his physical data are average, there are no leadership skills, but at the same time he can believe in himself: "I will have it!"

Self-esteem is rather low, self-confidence is high.

At the same time, self-esteem and self-confidence are strongly interconnected things. Usually, increasing self-esteem strengthens self-confidence, and vice versa.

Taking care of yourself is right and natural, and high self-esteem usually indicates that a person treats himself carefully and responsibly. If you think seriously and for the future, but the basis for high and stable self-esteem is not psychological chips, but reality: your objective value for people and life.

You are our priceless!

Base for high and stable self-esteem

Those who live with dignity, live with quality, are usually not familiar with the problems of low self-esteem. Put things in order in your life, at least in your house, at least on your table! and then maintain this order, and your self-esteem will quickly begin to rise.

Build and strengthen your life base

(a cozy apartment, a favorite dacha and a car contribute a lot to this), improve your skills, become a respected professional, live like a decent person, create a strong and happy family, be friends with worthy people, and you will have no problems with self-esteem.

Operational ways to raise self-esteem

However, self-esteem can be raised quickly, here and now, using the possibilities of the surrounding situation. Opportunities such as using signs of superiority, humiliating others, and using double standard in assessing yourself and others, we will not recommend: at least in the long run it will only bring you additional problems

There are many simple, smart, and worthwhile ways to boost your self-esteem, such as:

* Do what you know how to do cool.

For example, quickly make a delicious breakfast, beautifully set the table, eat with pleasure, clear the table and wash the dishes and praise yourself. Everyone, wow!

* Do a good deed

Call your parents, they will be pleased!

* Talk with those who know and love you, who sincerely fulfill the role of the Golden Mirror. Following the mood, self-esteem will also increase.

* Remind yourself of your successes The Success Notebook helps a lot. Have you got her already?

* Use affirmations

It does not hurt, it is quite useful and much more pleasant than scolding yourself.

Feeling of confidence

A sense of confidence is an inner feeling of one's own strength, right, rightness and opportunity. Self-confidence, lack of doubt and fear. One of the moments of self-confidence, along with confident behavior and determination.

A sense of confidence plus determination is determination: complete confidence in yourself and your strengths, courage, lack of fear in making and implementing your decisions.

Building a sense of confidence

Not everyone who has ground under their feet feels it as their support. Knowing you're right doesn't always make a strong voice. And there are arrogant, self-confident people who are confident in themselves even when there are no grounds for this. How to increase your faith in yourself, strengthen the feeling of your strength and your capabilities?

There is an operational sense of certainty and there is a basic sense of certainty.

Creating an operational feeling

confidence can solve the issue today and for now, and in order for the issue to be resolved seriously and for a long time, confidence should not be sought for a specific situation, not created from nothing, but develop its base, become confident seriously.

Rational Reasons for Confidence

Do I have reason to speak and act confidently? Are my rights sufficient? Am I in a strong position? Do I have enough experience? If I have opponents, is it true that their position is irreproachable? What are their weak points? Self-confident is the one who, based on his own experience, knows that he will be able to cope with difficulties and obstacles.

You need a positive experience of success - create a bank of success.

Plan a small number of tasks for the day, and do them accurately. If 3 things a day is too much for you, start with one. Quite cool - set your goals for 5 years - 3 years - 1 year.

In addition to the success bank, you need success RAM: skill in right moment remember about your successes, that you did it and that you have all the opportunities for success. Fix (remember, write down) the things you have done, the tasks that you have solved. Every day, write down at least 20 of your virtues, internal or external, in a notebook.

Develop the habit of seeing the positives in everything: seeing the joys and opportunities in life,

in people - strengths and good sides, in oneself - all this at once. Praise other people, compliment them - at least 3 times a day.

Develop a positive mindset.

Utilization of the negative. Reframe any negative statements about you that you hear from others or yourself.

You need to reformulate them so that they move you to action. You need - not experiences, but actions!

Use body suggestion: turn on activity, play confidence and strength

What to do today? And today, start with your body - with its activity. The most powerful hypnotist always by your side is your own body. Use

body suggestion: turn on activity, play confidence and strength

What you are now doing sluggishly and slowly, you can do more collectedly and faster. More active.

Increase your activity - to begin with, be active in areas that do not require a lot of effort from you.

Outside, walk faster. At the seminar - be active, raise your hand (when you know). Prepare your dinner more collected and lively, immediately wash and put away the dishes. Turn on the internal motor, start doing everything - quickly!

Allow yourself speed, including in decision making. At least one day a week, make all small decisions (not vital ones) quickly. When you enjoy being fast, you will start to get ahead of others, you will feel like a leader.

Cheerful morning. Do you need an active exercise stress in the morning, for example, running (at least 20 minutes).

Studies have been conducted - those who took up running, significantly increased self-confidence!

Interference - interfere. Create conditions where you can operate without interference.

For example, at home, you can start your morning more confidently by simply getting up 15 minutes earlier than the rest of the household.

Play confidence, learn to behave like a Master, start acting like a Master - this is one of the best forms of suggestion and self-hypnosis.

New behavior will be easier for you to develop in a new company (new environment).

Think, maybe sign up for some courses, or a section? It is convenient to work out new, confident behavior for you in stores or in the market - where people do not know you. There, no one will be surprised by your loud voice and confident statements.

Use affirmations

Affirmations are verbal auto-suggestions aimed at achieving the state you need.

“I am confident in myself. I will succeed. I have an easy and confident gait, good luck awaits me!”

Remind yourself of your personal rights: the right to ask, the right to be alone, the right to make a mistake.

Work on your beliefs and beliefs!

Practice relaxation

Anxiety interferes with confidence. To relieve fears and anxiety, practice relaxation.

Dealing with fear

Pick a good picture of the situation. How we see the situation depends on our self-perception. By changing the picture of the situation, choosing a vision, you can control your feelings.

The boundless sea is enchanted by beauty.
The song of the surf accompanies us on the campaign.
Believe in your strength and miracles
And nothing will happen to you!

The wind is fair to us in the sails!
Waves, playing, run after the stern.
Believe in yourself and believe in miracles
And nothing will happen to you!