My name is Maxim Krasochkin, I have been doing seduction training for a long time. And very often I encounter one typical mistake, with the most important mistake men make when seducing women. Although what does the seduction have to do with communication in general. A mistake, let's call it like this - "the wrong focus of attention." What is the focus of attention? Which one is correct? It sounds abstruse, in fact, everything is simple, I explain on my fingers.

Usually, when a man wants to please a girl, tries to seduce her, he gives her gifts, shows increased attention to her, tries to please, anticipate desires, and makes pleasant surprises. Picks up the keys to her heart. And everything seems to be correct, everything is fine, and some people even succeed. But the trick is that this communication is built on the wrong base, fragile. The base should be such that a man at the beginning should make himself comfortable.

Rule number 0 - make yourself feel good.

Then questions will disappear - if a guy invites a girl: " Let's go where anything." She says, "Yes, let's go." “Where do you want to?” The girl does not know where to go, she does not want to invent. She doesn't really care where she goes. If only there was a man who knows where he wants to go. A man who knows what he needs from life.

To explain these things, we can dip a little into history. Consider humanity over the past 100,000 years. Certainly for last years, a hundred years, humanity has changed a lot and even 10 - 20 years ago the world was very different. And then it will change even faster. But, nevertheless, the laws according to which a person, society exists, were formed even then, back in cave time, for many thousands of years. They are active and working right now, we may or may not know about them, we may not think about them, but this does not change anything.

What kind of man did a woman need then 100,000 years ago? She needed someone to provide for her and her baby. It will ensure its safety and security during the period of bearing a child and during the first years of his life. When she will not be able to work, when she herself will not be able to get food. For this period, a woman needs a man, of course, she needs to tie him up, and a woman learns to read the emotions of men and manage them. Years of serious purposeful training, all daughters-mothers, twisting in front of the mirror, chatting with girlfriends, and most importantly, watching and trying, I pouted, dad bought a doll. Bingo. All in order for him to provide for her and the child. They say that a woman chooses a man who looks like her father, even if such a training ground is known from birth. She needs a strong man, some kind of smart, preferably rich. A woman needs a man endowed with some external attributes. The fact is that external attributes come and go, for someone they disappear, for someone they appear. And a woman is focused on some kind of internal component, which in fact does not depend on money, does not depend on physical strength, does not depend on the ability to talk. There is such a thing as spirit, will, charisma, character, different people call the same thing with different words. A woman is looking for a man who has this same spirit. On what grounds - this is a topic for a separate discussion. She is looking for this inner component, and if she is, or the woman thinks that she is, then she understands that everything will be all right. True, they do not always realize this.

What is a spirit? What kind of men have spirit? Can it be developed? And How? To begin with, I will define the concept of the word "spirit". For me, the following definition is correct. “Spirit means having your own goals and moving towards them.” Every word is important. Each has great meaning. Who has? See definition. Develop? Can. How? Think and Do.

Then the woman fits into the channel of this man and feels very comfortable. A man goes through life fulfilling his goals, she provides for him, she surrenders to his stream ...

We go further ... How does such a man behave? He has his goals and moves to achieve them. Pushkin said: "The less we love a woman, the easier she likes us." This is a consequence of this rule, if a man is not so obsessed with a woman, but is passionate about his work, the easier it is, the more a woman likes him. It's like an instinct, she has this mechanism hidden in the depths, in the subcortex. Famous scientists or rock musicians, probably, this is not the best example, there are fans who follow them almost on their heels, and are very attached to these people. This is a mechanism that nature has built in, which evolution has built in.

A man endowed with will is attractive to a woman. And if a man shifts his focus of attention from a woman to himself, then seduction will go much easier.

How does this manifest itself in everyday life? You go on a date not where she wants, but where you are taking her. Wherever you feel comfortable. If you want to go to a movie. Lead the girl. If you like a certain club, then take her to that club. Even if this is a rock club and the smoke is yoke there, but when you go there, you feel that you have come to your home. If you like it there, then the girl will like it too, because you will feel harmonious and comfortable. If she hasn't been to this place, it will be new to her. She will feel safe next to you, and you will score extra points yourself.

One of the biggest lessons in my life. My father told me this, he had a clinical death and after that he lay at home, he called me and said the following words: “Maxim, always do those things in life that you like very much and don’t exchange for others!”. In my life I try to do those things that I really like, I try to follow the advice of my father and believe me, if you fall into this stream, it is very difficult and very easy to get there at the same time. But, if you are in it, then the women in your life are just a consequence. A consequence of how you live, a consequence of what you love.

If you are doing something and you can’t help talking about it, if your work is interesting to you, then you will be listened to with great pleasure, no matter what you do. I met people who talked about finance, not necessarily about them, but about some stupid ones, in my opinion not interesting things, but I listened to them excitedly and did not want to break away or leave.

It is very important that this inner fire burns in you, and the inner fire just ignites if you shift the focus of attention to yourself, if you do what you like, if you fulfill your goals in life. Then there will be as many women in your life as you need, as many as you can, as many as you want. Sorority becomes just a part of your life, it's something you pick up just by traveling down the road. The road called life.

The second mistake of a man when communicating / seducing a woman.
"A man invests, not gives."

Let's imagine a situation. Young woman. Boy. They meet. The guy shows some attention to the girl, perhaps he gives gifts, perhaps he spends some kind of joint leisure time with her, maybe he even financially participates in this leisure. Buys movie or theater tickets, closes a restaurant account, dresses well, smells good, and doesn't even let you get bored. His contribution to this girl is a good mood. He tries to be funny, talks about funny topics, knows a lot of stories. Everything seems to be fine and then the time "H" comes.

There is some such case that brings our young man from a state of mental equilibrium. It can be anything. For example, sms from some freak whom she called “my old acquaintance / friend”, or she didn’t go to hang out with him, but went with her girlfriends, or she was sad and didn’t show him proper attention ... Once again, it could be everything , anything, but here's another example, suddenly some type appeared, and she talked to him too kindly or ..., but what's the difference, what matters is that it became uncomfortable. What caused it doesn't really matter.

It seems to me that the fact is that the deep reason for the withdrawal from the harmonious state was that the guy invested attention, time, money in the girl ... He invested in her, and wanted to get something for it.

Now there will be a few definitions, a little theory, then we will put everything together.
Investment is when you invest today in order to get more tomorrow, or at least the same amount (although these are some strange investments). If you don’t get what you want, you become uncomfortable, or even very uncomfortable.
And, donation, I have here a definition from the Civil Code of the Russian Federation. A donation is an agreement under which one party (the donor) transfers or undertakes to transfer certain property to the other party (the donee) free of charge. An important word for free, i.e. a gift without asking for anything in return.

Let's go back to our cave age and look at the world through the eyes of a woman. What is her biological task?
Its biological task is to give new life, preferably, of course, from the best genes, the fittest, and for this new life to develop and in turn give new life. Accordingly, all men can be divided into two large camps. The first camp is those men from whom she is ready to have children, suitable genes that she subconsciously approved. And others, garbage, culling.

How to accurately determine which category a man belongs to? There is one very clear criterion. The criterion is called sex. This man had or didn't have sex with this woman.

Contraception appeared later, so this mechanism has not yet laid down in our subconscious. Whatever a woman says, for example, a career is important to me now, or I need to develop, so higher education comes first, “you are not a suitable option at all”, “I don’t like you”, “I’m only sixteen” ... Whatever she does . She says that she will drink pills and drink them, immediately after sex she runs to the bathroom, she has sex only after putting on six condoms on her partner (6 more for the second time) it doesn’t matter at all. But if a woman has sex with a man, then she is subconsciously ready to have children from him.

Whatever she said or did, in any other case. She says, “I really like you”, “you are smart”, “I need to check our relationship”, “I need to sort out feelings”, etc. It doesn’t matter what she says, but if there is no sex, then she is subconsciously not ready to have children from this man. This is such a clear criterion. You may not be aware of this mechanism, but it exists.

Let's return to our situation by the time "H".
Suppose a man and a girl didn’t have sex, and he invested time in her and still remained one of the huge camp of young people from whom she was not ready to have children. And when the investments burned out or began to burn, he began to take offense, fuss, began to mow. And the whole minus of the situation is that because it seems to him that his investments are going down the drain, he starts to mow even more. Starts making more mistakes. Offended. Jealous. The man begins inappropriate behavior. And not infrequently these things are invented by him. In a good way, he is nobody for this woman, and behaves as if he is the most important person in her life.

We collect.
Well, what is the way out of this situation? “Give”, not “invest”. The question here is not money, but attention and your actions. You give away what you already have so much, you give away what you do not feel sorry for. As a very rich person, you give not the last, you have this good in bulk. Good mood? Yes, I have plenty of it. It is very important to do from excess, and then neither the woman owes you anything, nor you owe her anything. This is a very important two-way connection, neither you nor she owe each other anything.

Many obligations also fall from you, for example, that you do not communicate with other girls. Some guys believe that if he started talking with one girl, then he can no longer communicate with others, otherwise how will she react? And they begin to limit themselves in behavior, to behave more decently. The right way to be like everyone else. You don't have to do that, you just have to be yourself. If you like a girl in a club where you hang out together, you need to pay attention to this other girl, it's annoying. Don't limit yourself.

I have one friend, he talked with one girl, and the man himself is not poor, and loves to pay attention very beautifully. And he had no sex with this girl. When she told him that he was very nice courting, he replied that it was just a pleasure for him to please her. “I see that you like it and I enjoy it. If I didn't enjoy it, I wouldn't be doing it."

Accordingly, the question arises, where to get so many emotions, strengths, where to get this excess, if sometimes you don’t have enough for yourself. You can’t be funny, you don’t draw money yourself either. It's not a question of money, it's not a question of who pays for whom. The question is, are you doing it for free, or do you want something in return. The answer is actually very simple. This rule is a consequence of the first rule. Do well for yourself first. And if you feel good, then emotions will not keep you waiting. And anticipating the question about money. If they are good, if they are not, it happens. If you give more than you want, then this is probably bad.

As a result, you become independent of a woman, and this is like a red rag on a bull. Give from excess.

The third mistake of a man when communicating / seducing a woman

Thinks a lot, does little.

If we take our ordinary life, then it looks something like this: “Oh, if I do something, what will she think/say/do???”
I hear this a lot in training. I'm tired of answering these questions. The answer is as primitive as it is simple.

You come and do it.

One practical way out gives many times more information than sitting at the computer for a year, than all these long theorizing. Or this, for example, the situation, the guy dialed phone numbers at the training and does not call anyone, he is waiting for a topic with a date, and suddenly it’s not right. And suddenly it doesn't work.

Take and do, do not know what to do, take a step forward.

Even in previous topics there was such a wave, and on the forum, too, “but you really realize yourself and you have everything”. No, you have to come and take it.

If you see a girl you like today, come up and start a conversation. Maybe they'll talk to you, maybe they won't. What's the difference if you didn't make the previous 2 mistakes?

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So, when I ask him about what kind of girl he wants to see next to him, he points his finger at a very well-groomed glamorous beauty, self-sufficient, interesting as a person, looking gorgeous. Does she need a man like him? I think no. She needs a man even more developed in all respects than she is, this is the natural desire of a woman to get a man who is higher than her in the social pyramid. Here, read. And also, on this topic, I have several excellent training videos on my YouTube channel, which you can watch right now by clicking over here. In these videos, I cover this topic in more detail. I don’t really like writing on the blog, I’m still a lazy person, it’s easier for me to speak on camera;). So, I'm better off not reading.

So the man begins to develop in all directions. Because the desire to please women is a natural need of a man.

So, if you think that pickup training is a magic pill, after taking which all the girls will queue up for your dick, you are wrong. Training will undoubtedly give you a maximum of chips, templates and schemes for. And you can really seduce good girls, but they will be girls up to a certain level. To seduce the very best, you have to become a better person yourself.

I'm not trying to dissuade you, by any means. This is just what you need. I just want to warn and prepare you for the fact that you will have to work hard on yourself. But it will give you such results that you will be simply shocked by yourself. You say - "Is it really possible!".

By the way, if you take mine, then I try to practically not give any patterns, I just remove everything that bothers you and you remain yourself, but suddenly you discover the skill of seduction in yourself. If you imagine yourself as a kind of glass, then at the bottom you already have everything to seduce women, nature has given you this for reproduction.

Imagine that you are at the bottom of a glass a little boy, you are three years old (I saw a little boy just walk up to a girl and take her hand because he liked her) and you do what you want. But when you start growing, society, teachers, kindergarteners, parents, put more and more restrictions on you, unnecessary layers. It’s impossible, it’s not decent, it’s not accepted, and so on.

And in the end, you grow up full of social clamps and live not the way you want, but the way the society wants. So this is my task, when you come to my trainings on seducing women, to make it so that you simply remove these unnecessary layers in order to get the child out of you again. Here, look at the picture.

So, you and I found out the pickup truck is not a magic pill and you have to work.

Now let me tell you what they are good for and what they give you. You will pump your skill to communicate with people in general, you will be able to convince anyone of tea. This skill helps a lot in business or career.

For example, one of my last students told me this story. “I worked as the youngest manager in the team and my boss, a woman, sent me running errands on the smallest things all the time, she was not interested that I was busy at that moment.

But when I went through the training, without noticing it myself, I began to communicate with people in a different way, not only with women, but in general. I started to communicate from the position “From Above”, I just felt like a man with a capital M. And, about a month after the training, I unexpectedly received an offer from my supervisor - to promote me.

Naturally, I agreed, and besides, I stopped being an errand boy, they just stopped chasing me. Plus, many graduates of the trainings begin to gradually go into their own business, become successful, beautiful, strong and interesting. A man who is successful with women simply cannot but be successful in life - he is successful in everything.

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Further, you will receive unlimited freedom of choice. You will begin to belong to all the women who will only catch your eye, it remains only to take them. You choose - a lot different women, or a single one. A pickup truck gives you the opportunity to choose from many exactly the one that will be most to your heart, and when you see her, you will definitely not miss the moment, you will do everything to make her yours.

How are the trainings to seduce girls. In my book, which you can find here, I described in detail the ten stages of learning, what exactly happens to you, now I will briefly tell you.

On the example of individual training or a mini-group of three people. Classes are held not in the hall, but directly in those places where there are many girls and a large flow of people. We jokingly call such places Telkoemki.

"Teluton capacity" is the number of girls per square meter)))). We sit in a cafe in the mall and I tell the theory. Then we go to practice. We go down to the subway, we walk along the street, inside shopping center, in general, we do it on purpose everywhere, so that later you can in lifestyle mode anywhere, even in line with the dentist.

Mine is about 25 percent theory and the rest practice. I personally kick each student, and also give him competent feedback, that is, I correct his movement gestures and what he could do better. Sometimes some little thing that you don’t even notice can interfere with the result. But here all the little things are important, because they make up the big picture.

Practical exercises are arranged in such a way that it is as comfortable as possible for students. No one will immediately force them to do some hellish things, all gradually.

In this article, I told you briefly about how you can change your life and most beautiful girls, and you just have to choose for yourself - to sit on the priest evenly and watch how someone takes away best women or start taking action. The choice of training is large, although, without undue modesty, I declare that since I will not teach you.

Just watch the video (in the Video section) with my dating girls and choose the best pickup training for yourself. I guarantee everyone who comes to us for training that he will be able to do the same in three days.

He passed almost all well-known trainings on seduction, he is well acquainted with the American school of seduction. Coach, personal growth coach with 10 years of experience. More than 250 successfully trained clients. Over 4,000 hours spent as a pickup truck trainer.

He preaches an individual approach to learning, identifying and developing the strengths of clients, applying both his own experience and the best practices of leading schools.

He went through all the stages from a novice "student" who does not know how to start communicating with a girl, to a successful, sought-after man, a coach, as well as a trainer who has built regular effective communication with the weaker sex into his lifestyle.

More than 7 years of successful career as a headhunter - a specialist in finding and motivating top managers for leading international companies. Several years of work as an adviser to the owner of one of the largest manufacturing companies in Russia. Repeatedly organized group corporate trainings on motivation, as well as the identification and development of professional and personal qualities.

Worked for Peter Listerman.

He took part in television projects as a dating expert and pickup coach.

He believes that communication, as well as the opportunity to seduce a girl, is a real emotional life coaching and training.

Dating specialist. Knows how to meet and instantly establish comfortable communication with a girl in absolutely any place: cafes, metro, clubs, street dating.