Why do bad people hate good people?
For a person who truly believes in God, a clear example of why evil people hate good people is the example of the attitude of evil people towards Jesus Christ, as well as towards the Old Testament and New Testament righteous.
The root cause of hatred in people is demonic pride and envy. Cast down from heaven, the spirits of darkness envied the Grace that God gave to the human race, and therefore decided to deprive people of this Grace through temptation and lies. It was through temptation and lies that the sin of pride and deceit entered the first people, and through them into us.
The spirits of darkness did not leave the families of St. Noah after the flood. And they were completely ready to destroy the human race, but then God Himself in the form of the God-Man Jesus Christ came to Earth to save people from destruction. The darkness, out of the poverty of its mind, wanted to seduce the God-man Jesus, but that was not the case. For He is not only a perfect man, but also God.
Then she decided to defame Christ and destroy Him. After all, more and more people followed Jesus, and something had to be done. After all, He deprived demons of power over people, deprived those means and opportunities by which demons tempted, deceived and captivated the human race. Jesus is purity itself, against the background of which all the dirt of the spirits of malice was visible. He is the true Light, in which all the secret deeds of evil are seen. He is the true truth, revealing demonic lies. He is God, by His Grace giving people the joy of life.
Jesus Christ worked miracles, taught people a righteous life, exposed evil and gave people the opportunity to be freed from sins. He revealed to the world the true understanding of God. He created the Church so that, thanks to the Church of Christ, people could commune with holy things and through the holy sacraments and a righteous life communicate with God Himself. To good people the Lord grants His Grace, with which every virtue of good people is blessed and every evil of evil people is convicted. Everyone knows that the world rests on good people, and is humbled by evil people.
Good and pious people are removed from association with evil people. Precisely because of envy, born of pride, and because they cannot deceive the good righteous, evil people and hate good people. And also because good people are not hypocrites and with their whole being denounce lies and all evil.
The holy king, the prophet David, did not even want to converse with evil people, which he himself testified by saying: “I will not sit with the wicked” (Ps. 25:5).
The Lord Himself said: “You will be hated for my name’s sake” (Luke 21:17).
“If the world hates you, know that it hated me before you. If you were of the world, the world would love its own; and because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world: therefore the world hates you” (John 15:18-19)
In general, the sons of this age, following the evil customs and customs of a sinful and adulterous world, not only do not love the light of Christ and flee from it, but out of their folly would like to extinguish it. They strive with their meager mind to question the truth of the Gospel teaching; they persecute the very preachers of the teachings of Christ; they slander righteous and pious people, they persecute people who live by faith in God.
- “Let us arrange for the righteous, for he is a burden to us and opposes our deeds, reproaches us in deeds against the Law of God and vilifies us for the sins of our upbringing. He is before us - the conviction of our thoughts. It is hard for us even to look at him, for his life is not like the life of others and his ways are different ”(Wise Solom, 2, 12-18).
People become evil when they are possessed by evil, and evil can possess a person only when a person departs from God and voluntarily surrenders himself to the power of darkness. Thus, people deprive themselves of the Grace of God, which God bestows only on good people. Therefore, the world of evil people is a world of impiety and evil. It is from this world of evil that the Lord orders to move away. Yes, and people themselves often say: "Move away from evil - do good."
But there is another world, the world of God, which we must desire. Peace, about which Jesus Christ Himself speaks: “Peace I leave you, peace, My peace I give you, not as the world gives you, I give you” (John 14, 27). The peace of Christ is His Church and our holy Orthodox faith. This is the kind of world we should desire - a world in which the Lord himself, his righteous and all pious people.
Mitred Archpriest Anatoly Kirichenko (Kyriakidis)
I have chosen you from the world, for this sake the world hates you(John 15, 19)
For a person who truly believes in God, a clear example of why evil people hate good people is the example of the attitude of evil people towards Jesus Christ, as well as towards the Old Testament and New Testament righteous.
The root cause of hatred in people is demonic pride and envy. Cast down from heaven, the spirits of darkness envied the Grace that God gave to the human race, and therefore decided to deprive people of this Grace through temptation and lies. It was through temptation and lies that the sin of pride and deceit entered the first people, and through them into us. The spirits of darkness did not leave the families of St. Noah after the flood. And they were completely ready to destroy the human race, but then God Himself in the form of the God-Man Jesus Christ came to Earth to save people from destruction. The darkness, out of the poverty of its mind, wanted to seduce the God-man Jesus, but that was not the case. For He is not only a perfect man, but also God. Then she decided to defame Christ and destroy Him. After all, more and more people followed Jesus, and something had to be done. After all, He deprived demons of power over people, deprived those means and opportunities by which demons tempted, deceived and captivated the human race. Jesus is purity itself, against the background of which all the dirt of the spirits of malice was visible.He is the true Light, in which all the secret deeds of evil are seen. He is the true truth, revealing demonic lies. He is God, by His Grace giving people the joy of life. Jesus Christ worked miracles, taught people a righteous life, exposed evil and gave people the opportunity to be freed from sins. He revealed to the world the true understanding of God. He created the Church so that, thanks to the Church of Christ, people could commune with holy things and through the holy sacraments and a righteous life communicate with God Himself. To good people the Lord grants His Grace, with which every virtue of good people is blessed and every evil of evil people is convicted. Everyone knows that the world rests on good people, and is humbled by evil people. Good and pious people are removed from association with evil people. Precisely because of the reason to get excited, generated by pride and because they cannot deceive the good righteous, evil people hate good people. And also because good people are not hypocrites and with their whole being denounce lies and all evil.
The holy king, the prophet David, did not even want to converse with evil people, which he himself testified by saying: “ I will not sit with the wicked"(Ps. 25, 5).
The Lord Himself said: You will be hated by my name"(Luke 21, 17).
- « If the world hates you, know that it hated me before you. If you were of the world, the world would love its own; and because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world: therefore the world hates you"(John 15, 18-19)
In general, the sons of this age, following the evil customs and customs of a sinful and adulterous world, not only do not love the light of Christ and flee from it, but out of their folly would like to extinguish it. They strive with their meager mind to question the truth of the Gospel teaching; they persecute the very preachers of the teachings of Christ; they slander righteous and pious people, they persecute people who live by faith in God.
- « Let us arrange covens for the righteous, for he is a burden to us and opposes our deeds, reproaches us in deeds against the Law of God and vilifies us for the sins of our upbringing. He is before us - the denunciation of our thoughts. It is hard for us even to look at him, for his life is not like the life of others and his ways are different."(Wise. Solom, 2, 12-18).
People become evil when they are possessed by evil, and evil can possess a person only when a person departs from God and voluntarily surrenders himself to the power of darkness. Thus, people deprive themselves of the Grace of God, which God bestows only on good people. Therefore, the world of evil people is a world of impiety and evil. It is from this world of evil that the Lord orders to move away. And people themselves often say: Move away from evil - do good».
But there is another world, the world of God, which we must desire. The world that Jesus Christ Himself speaks of: Peace I leave you, peace, My peace I give you, not as the world gives you, I give you"(John 14, 27). The peace of Christ is His Church and our holy Orthodox faith. This is the kind of world we should desire - a world in which the Lord himself, his righteous and all pious people.
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If real life were like the television show Survivor, then the good guys could be one of the first to be removed from the island by voting. A new study shows that we equally hate lazy people who do not want to do anything in life, and good people who allow lazy people to live at someone else's expense.
Initially, the researchers designed the experiment, hoping to validate the idea that group members would dislike each other and remove unproductive members. As part of the study, college students were offered a video game where teamwork was required to win. As expected, the results showed that "people refused to maintain unfair relationships." However, they were surprised to find that the subjects also wished to remove the "benevolent" teammates who were the most tolerant of slackers. Intrigued by this finding, they conducted three further studies to see if this result would hold up.
Although each of the subsequent experiments was not like the previous ones, they were all variations of college students playing a game of co-op. computer game with members of the group invisible to them, two of which were fictional. One fictitious member of the team (lazy) scored significantly less points than the others. Another fictional character (the kind guy) played well, but rated the lazy one just as well as the other team members. At the end, team members evaluated the performance of teammates. And everyone repeatedly pointed out that they would like to get rid of both the lazy person and the good guy.
The researchers were also interested in knowing the reasons why a good team member got bad grades. 58% said they were unhappy that a good player put them on the same level as a bad player (lazy). Ultimately when good guy gave the slacker a good mark, the group ganged up on the good guy.
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Why do people not perceive you, no matter how hard you try to please them? Maybe you are a toxic person who likes to "crush" others with the weight of his own importance? Or, on the contrary, are you an introvert and sociopath who avoids unnecessary communication and shuns people? What could be the reasons why people stubbornly dislike you and bypass you?
1. You're trying to impress everyone.
Nobody likes showmen in real life. This is true. People don't like people who try to please everyone. Most likely, they are perceived as either clowns or overly arrogant arrogant. Ask a few people for their honest opinion of you. Write down all the moments and think them over well.
2. You are too intelligent
We see this problem in schools where smart kids with different opinions face constant bullying or ostracism. The same thing happens in the workplace, when really bright and talented individuals try not to stand out so as not to become outcasts in the team. More confidence will help you. And remember that people can really envy you.
3. You are a know-it-all
There is a fine line between smart people and know-it-all people. Primarily, smart people usually do not show off their intelligence: they are modest, practical and behave with dignity. Know-it-alls want to be the center of attention, outshine others, and receive compliments and recognition. Be more discreet, you don't have to prove your worth!
4. You love gossip
The love of rumors and gossip has not yet brought anyone to good. You should have figured this out for yourself from the time school years. Gossip is good for yellow papers, but not for life. The more you talk about other people, the less they love you. Just know how to bite your tongue in time.
5. You try to control everything and everyone.
Nobody likes being controlled. Such behavior can be considered as manipulative, because no one likes to control everything. Usually they stay away from them and limit all contact with them. You need to find out for yourself what excessive control is and how to stop teaching and guiding other people, especially if they do not ask you for it.
6. You don't know how to listen
We can all fail to listen and hear other people from time to time. The human brain is usually "wired" to receive news, and therefore communication with some people may seem boring to you. However, the ability to listen to others is very good quality. You may not like what someone says, but if you want to be a pleasant and desirable person in society, then learn to be considerate. Become a good listener!
7. You don't think before you speak.
Some people voice their thoughts and opinions without thinking, apparently believing that straightforwardness is a useful quality. However, people do not always like excessive frankness, therefore they prefer to avoid truth-tellers, since their behavior looks somewhat tactless. Therefore, learn to think before you cut the truth-womb.
8. You are too zealous
Overzealousness - or rather, wasting effort and attention on unnecessary little things - is a type of behavior that many people either do not appreciate or do not understand. Here are some examples:
- People who try too hard to fit into a company, team or group.
People who try too hard to look good.
People who try too hard to be the best.
If you have this problem, one solution is to practice self-awareness and self-acceptance.
There are plenty of ways to piss people off, and most of them don't require any effort. It is enough to look at what you are doing on social networks, or chat with you for a few seconds. Shana Leibovitz of Business Insider has picked out some of the most common things that turn people off and explains how to avoid them. Read - sound familiar?
1. You post too many photos on Facebook.
But research shows that when you post too many photos on Facebook, it can hurt your relationships with people. "People - unless they are your close friends and relatives - do not really accept those who constantly post photos with themselves," says David Houghton, author of one of these studies. In particular, your friends don't like it when you have too many photos of your family, and your relatives don't like it when you have too many photos with friends. So be careful with photos - they can both strengthen relationships and strike at them.
2. You have too many or too few Facebook friends
The authors of one study asked participants to evaluate the profiles of fictitious Facebook users. It was in 2008, and then the ideal number of friends turned out to be something around 300 (approximately the average number of participants in the study). When a user had around 100, they got a low rating (many users simply didn't like it), and a similar situation arose when they had significantly more than 300 friends. Interestingly, people did not realize that they were judging the profile by the number of friends - they simply said that they liked or disliked this person.
The authors of the study conclude that those who have too many friends are perceived as people who are too focused on Facebook, who “friend” others in pursuit of popularity.
If you look at a group of people who have, on average, about 1,000 Facebook friends, that 1,000 would be ideal. But as recent polls show, the average Facebook user has 338 friends.
3. You talk too soon about something personal.
Usually people like each other more when they share something confidential. But psychologists say that when you reveal some intimate information, when you are just building a relationship with a person, it gives the impression that you are not confident in yourself and pushes people away from you. It is important to communicate on a personal level, but not too personal. As research by Susan Sprecher of the University of Illinois shows, talking about your hobbies and favorite childhood memories is enough to make you seem like a warmer, more pleasant person.
4. You ask others questions, but don't talk about yourself at all.
The same study by Susan Sprecher shows that it is important that the exchange of details of personal life is mutual. People don't like it if you don't reciprocate in exchange for some intimate information. "While timid or insecure people may ask questions to divert attention from themselves, our research shows that this is not a good relationship building strategy," the authors write.
5. Your profile photo is too close-up
If on your profile, say on LinkedIn, your face is very close to the camera, it is better to change this photo. Research shows that people photographed from a distance of 45 centimeters are perceived as less attractive, competent and trustworthy than those photographed from a distance of 135 centimeters.
6. You hide your emotions.
Research shows that this is a poor relationship building strategy. In one study, people were shown scenes from famous movies and asked to either hold back their emotions or express them openly. The videos of these people were then shown to the other study participants and asked if they would like to befriend the people in the video and rate them. Those who suppressed their emotions were rated as less agreeable, less extroverted, and less accommodating than those who naturally expressed their emotions.
Researchers believe this is related to the idea of reciprocity, which we discussed just above: “When someone hides their feelings, it can be perceived as their disinterest in intimacy, social support, joint activities.
7. You are being too kind.
You might think that altruism allows you to win new friends, but research suggests otherwise. In 2010, researchers at the University of Washington gave study participants points that could be kept or exchanged for lunches at cafes. Participants were told that they were playing in groups of five - although four of them were "decoys" - and that when you share points with others, it increases the chances of the whole group to receive cash rewards.
Some of the "dummy" members gave away a lot of points, but most of the real members ended up saying that they no longer wanted to work with such people. Some said that against the background of such altruism, they themselves somehow do not look very good, while others suspected that altruists have some hidden selfish motives.
The conclusion is this: you should not be the person who always agrees to buy and bring pizza to a meeting or deal with a printer that has a paper jam. Periodically it is worth saying "no" - just explain why.
8. You praise yourself under the guise of self-criticism.
Don't try to impress friends or potential employers by hiding self-praise behind self-criticism. It really turns a lot of people off. In one recent study, students were asked to write down how they would describe their biggest weakness in an interview. More than 75% of participants said they were perfectionists or complained that they worked too hard and too hard.
But those who did evaluate these reviews were more likely to hire those who spoke honestly about themselves, and honest people were more liked by the evaluators—for example, those who wrote that they “didn’t always manage to be organized,” or admitted that "sometimes he reacts too nervously."
Another sensible option is to write about weaknesses that are not directly related to your potential job: for example, if you are applying for a copywriting position, it is quite possible to admit that you are afraid to speak in public.
9. You are too nervous
Research shows that when stress makes others sweat, others subconsciously make negative judgments about them. In 2013, participants in one study were shown videos of women in ordinary life situations - at work or interacting with children. During the viewing, three types of odors were distributed in the hall: 1) the smell of sweat during sports activities; 2) the smell of sweat, which is released during stress; 3) the smell of sweat from stress, but with added deodorant.
Participants were then asked to rate these women's competence, confidence, and trust they deserve. The female characters in the video scored the lowest when the video was accompanied by the smell of stress-induced sweat. The deodorant gave higher ratings. So if you are prone to sweating with excitement, feel free to use deodorants. published
