Housekeeping tips from the 60s. "She might want to cry."

After a hard day at work, a man returns home and wants to be greeted by loving wife. However, women make mistakes that lead to quarrels and insults. In order for family relationships to be warm and harmonious, it is important to know how to properly greet your husband after work.

Taking care of a man

Every person needs care. And men, despite their outward seriousness and strength, also want to be thought about, so a delicious dinner and a cozy homely atmosphere will be an excellent continuation of the day after work. For a husband to want to return home, he must associate this place with calm, warmth and support.

If the apartment is a mess, the woman is unhappy, and the dinner is cold, the man is unlikely to rush to the family, because care is an important element in family relationships.

Of course, the wife may not have enough strength and time to meet her beloved “in full dress,” especially if she also works and returns home no earlier than the man. But every lady can show interest and love when meeting in the evening, seasoning everything with a good mood.

Reference! If a man forgot to once again praise his wife for her efforts, do not be offended by him. Your efforts will still be appreciated. The spouse will remember the care and warmth that awaits him at home in the evenings.

Creating a favorable atmosphere

At all times, it was believed that a man is the breadwinner, and a woman is the keeper of the home. Modern world has undergone some changes in the matter of relationships, but the rights to create an atmosphere are still entrusted to women's shoulders.

Maintaining comfort in the home is more difficult after a hard day, when the wife herself wants to relax, so it is necessary to find resources for the mental attitude of care and tenderness. To do this, you can remember all the positive moments of relationships and family life. This could be a first date, a trip, an acquaintance.

It’s better to finish or put off household chores by the time your husband arrives.. An uncleaned table or a dirty floor will not upset a man as much as his beloved wife, tired, disheveled with rags and mops at the ready, so it is better to plan the day so that when your husband returns, you will meet him fresh and with a smile.

If the wife is on maternity leave

Raising a child takes a lot of effort and time. Especially the first year of a baby’s life is quite difficult for the mother. Some women make the mistake of completely forgetting about themselves and their loved one, directing all their attention only to the child.

It is important to organize time during the day so that there is enough time for a short rest and for your spouse. You should devote at least 20 minutes a day to yourself. Before the man arrives, you should change into clean clothes and change the baby’s clothes. You can turn on your favorite music to lift your mood a little.

Advice! IN maternity leave There is not always time to prepare culinary masterpieces. But the spouse will appreciate even ordinary borscht if it is hot and tasty.

Spouse works

If a woman’s working day lasts longer than her husband’s, then the question of picking up her husband from work should not arise at all. But it is not so.

You can prepare in advance and surprise a man a little by showing concern from a distance. Enough in advance cook dinner, leave it in the refrigerator. You need to leave a note on the table with a hint where to look for food. The spouse will only have to warm up the food.

Appearance

To go to the cinema or restaurant, a woman spends more than one hour in front of the mirror, applying makeup and choosing an outfit. Men love with their eyes, and want to see their ladies beautiful and well-groomed, not only when walking together. This does not mean at all that you need to wear high heels and boots at home. evening dress. All you need to do is choose a comfortable and cute home kit.

It would be useful to comb your hair, you can lightly tint your eyes and lips. A ton of cosmetics should be left for other occasions. And if you notice a stain on your clothes, then it’s time to send them to the wash and change clothes.

Dinner

A hot and tasty dinner will definitely please your loved one. It's worth having dinner with him; many men enjoy the company. You should not immediately burden your spouse with a huge amount of information and questions.

He needs some time to adjust from work mode to home mode. As soon as he has rested a little, you can start everyday conversations and solve everyday problems.

Children

If previously children did not have the habit of picking up their father from work, it is worth getting them used to this. This will once again demonstrate to the head of the family how welcome he is at home and how loved he is.

The children should be explained in advance that dad needs some time to rest, and then he can play with them.

Conversations

It has already been noted that conversations should not be rushed. It’s not worth dumping all the events of the day on your spouse right away.. Just wait a while, just have dinner, and then discuss everything you wanted. By this time the man will have rested a little and will be ready to talk and listen.

Pleasant surprises

To family life has not become a routine It is recommended to sometimes arrange small surprises for your loved one.

All you need to do is show a little imagination. It could be a hot bath after a hard day at work, romantic dinner or others

A sense of proportion in everything

In any direction and business, it is important to observe moderation. If you overdo it, the problems will only increase.

Important! A man needs care and tenderness, but it should be in moderation. Otherwise, the woman will simply “strangle” her husband with her love.

The important point is the situations when there was a quarrel the night before. If she was not large, you should not ignore the return home of the head of the family. But at the same time it is worth showing offense. To do this, you don’t have to sit down to dinner with him, but take care of yourself, prepare not a culinary masterpiece, but limit yourself to a semi-finished product. But You cannot solve problems and sort things out right from the door or while eating.

There is nothing difficult about properly meeting a man from work. Look attractive enough, cook a delicious dinner and not overload your spouse with information. All that remains is to add tenderness, good mood and little surprises, and the man will be pleased.

Gradually, mutual interest in marriage may fade, and relationships may deteriorate over the years. To maintain a couple, you need to pay attention to each other every day. If a wife takes care of her husband and, for example, greets him correctly from work, then the family will be stronger and happier.

Positive atmosphere

The mood that will reign in the house largely depends on the wife. Therefore, it is important to create a warm, calm atmosphere for the husband’s evening return from work. Maintaining good spirits requires resources. Where can you get them if you collapse from fatigue in the evening? Recharge yourself with positive memories. Remember the feelings you felt at the beginning of your affair with your husband. Feel the butterflies in your stomach and the wings behind your back and find the strength to smile, look warmly into your eyes, and greet you with affection and care.

It is important to finish or postpone household chores before your husband arrives. Your husband is unlikely to notice an imperfectly clean floor, but a out of breath wife with a mop and a basin is unlikely to be what he wants to see upon returning from work. Learn to plan your day so that you can devote time to your family in the evening, and prepare for this in advance.

Appearance

Sometimes for strangers who meet on the street, a woman is ready to spend an hour in front of the mirror, while for the sake of her own husband she cannot comb her hair and change clothes. Don't repeat this mistake. If you still wear old pants and threadbare robes, get yourself a comfortable but presentable home wardrobe.

Dedicate half an hour to makeup and hair styling, and your husband will feel like he was waited on. To a beautiful, well-groomed wife who expresses respect for her neat husband appearance, I just want to fly home from work. Even with minimal effort you can significantly improve the picture he sees upon arrival.

Dinner

Prepare a hot dinner for your beloved husband. When he comes home from work hungry and tired, not only a cheerful and beautiful wife will be waiting for him, but also an appetizing dish. If you were at home, preparing a meal for your spouse's return is a very important gesture of respect and care. Some husbands don't like to eat alone, so it's best to keep them company.

Do not dump a bunch of information, reproaches, stories and questions on your spouse from the doorstep. Give your man time to rest and have dinner, and then ask him about his day. Imagine yourself in his place and think in what mood you would be in that house where negativity is flying at you from the threshold. It is advisable not to send a man who has just arrived to take out the trash or buy bread. The bucket can wait, but it’s better to talk about the need to run to the store in advance.

Again, an old fake about an excerpt from the supposed " Soviet book on home economics, published in the 60s of the 20th century":

“You must remember that you need to prepare every day for your husband’s return from work. Prepare the children, wash them, comb their hair and dress them in clean, smart clothes. They should line up and greet their father when he enters the door. For such an occasion, put on your own a clean apron and try to decorate yourself - for example, tie a bow in your hair.

Do not engage in conversations with your husband, remember how tired he is, and what he has to do every day in the service, for your sake - feed him silently, and only after he reads the newspaper, you can try to talk to him."

And from there, from the part “Advice for Men”:
"After having sex with your wife, you should let her go to the bathroom, but don't follow her, let her be alone. She might want to cry."

Why fake?

An attentive reader will notice that even in this short passage, ideas about domestic life do not coincide with what is described - for example, in the 60s it was not customary for us to write about sex in non-medical literature.

But that's not even the main thing.

More importantly, the image of a housewife waiting from work is as atypical for the USSR in general and the Soviet woman of the 1960s as it is typical for the capitalist world.
As well as items of clothing - an apron and a bow, which in the USSR were worn only by schoolgirls, as elements school uniform(and also, perhaps, service personnel in hotels, some "Intourists"). In general, this is a servant’s uniform characteristic of the capitalist world. A Soviet woman dressed up like this at home would make her want to call the paramedics...

Those who mindlessly repost do not think about it, and when they are asked about the sources of the fake, they flirtatiously refer to Yandex or Google. And as a rule, everyone who quotes this passage refers to the publications of exactly the same reposters in 2008-2009 and later.

It's funny, but there are characters who " they saw this book and read it with their own eyes, but they can’t show it to you, since the book remained on the other side of the country“- however, why be surprised: the fact that LiveJournal was created for propaganda and psychological treatment, a kind of replacement for radio “Voices” and radio “Freedom”, is no secret to anyone.

However, everything is in the same Google, and even on the first page I found a reference to an earlier publication in LiveJournal dating back to 2006 (but even in the comments to it it sounds like “accordion”, that is, the commentator had encountered this text before) , and it says that it is an excerpt from an Australian home economics manual used to teach girls in high school:

Still have questions?

Then I have it. A couple.

How long, gentlemen, repeaters, will you continue to reproduce any nonsense without a second thought?

Isn’t it time to turn on your brains and turn off Smerdyakov’s nonsense gland?

UPD: found earlier publications, reference to " Soviet book" is found earlier, and earlier references to an Australian source were found, for example, in Radulova (February 2006).

Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to prepare a delicious meal for his arrival. This will show that you are thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home, and the prospect of a good dinner (especially if it's his favorite dish) is a necessary part of the warm comfort of home.
Prepare yourself. Rest for 15 minutes to refresh yourself for his arrival. Straighten your clothes, weave a ribbon in your hair, be fresh and cheerful for his arrival. Be a fun and interesting conversationalist. He needs a lift after a tiring day, and it is the wife's duty to provide this.
Clean up the house. Walk around the rooms before he arrives - make sure everything is clean. Remove textbooks, toys, newspapers. Wipe off dust from tables. During the colder months, light a fire in the fireplace. Your husband will feel that he has reached an oasis of relaxation and order and will rejoice. In addition, taking care of his comfort will give you great personal satisfaction.

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Take care of the children. Wash small children, wash their hands, comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. Children are a little treasure, he will be pleased to see them in the appropriate form. Keep quiet. When he arrives, turn off the washer, dryer and vacuum cleaner.... Try to convince the children not to make noise.
Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and show a sincere desire to please him. Listen to him. You may have a lot of important things to tell him, but don't do it the moment he returns. Let him speak first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
Make this evening his evening. Never complain if he came late or ate dinner and had fun without you. Your task: to ensure that the home is a place of calm, order and peace where your husband can perk up.

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Don't complain if he's late for dinner or doesn't show up for the night.
Make him comfortable. Have him sit in a comfortable chair or lay him down on the bed. Have a cold or warm drink ready for him.
Adjust his pad and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a quiet, soothing and pleasant voice. Don't question his actions or doubt his judgment. Remember, he is the head of the family!

From the Czech magazine “For Everyone”

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When you get out of bed, try to look flirtatious with your morning coffee, because... An unkempt woman disgusts her husband.
Do not engage in conversation with your husband until he has shaved and brushed his teeth. When your husband is shaving, do not disturb him; shaving for a man is an hour of thinking about what he has to do that day. Even the most talkative man is silent in the morning.
Know how to set the table, don't forget to put an ashtray, put fresh newspapers. A man is interested in politics, and don’t make a dissatisfied face when he is busy with the newspaper and not with you....

A smart woman should be 25% more cheerful than there is reason for this.
Don't walk around all day without heels, it ruins your gait and figure.
Look forward to your husband returning from work, be prepared in everything. The husband should not wait for lunch or dinner. Everything should be ready.
If your husband returns from work tired, do not attack him with questions, let him come to his senses and eat.

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Avoid endless telephone conversations with your family or friends in the presence of your husband, this irritates him.
Husbands don't like tears, try to cry as little as possible in their presence.
Don't tell your husband what you sacrificed for him.
Be an unread book for your husband, try to make your husband discover more and more attractive qualities.
At least once a week, let your husband feel like a bachelor; don’t ask where he was and what he did. He will tell you everything himself.

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Don't stop your husband from spreading his wings sometimes, i.e. flirt. This raises him in his own eyes, otherwise secrecy appears.
Jealousy - dangerous weapon. Use it as a last resort. But beware, if your husband finds other women attractive, it’s better to notice what he likes and take it into account for yourself. Be impartial to other women yourself.
Don't patronize your husband so much that he notices it, and don't give him a lot of advice.
Do not put your husband on a chain, it is better to keep him on silk threads, because... this makes it more durable. Know how to create the illusion of freedom for him.
If you want to achieve something from your husband, appeal to his pride and self-esteem, and you will be successful.
Respect your husband's profession - it feeds you.

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Do not humiliate your husband’s constancy, do not criticize his sensual and moral qualities, a man does not forget this.
Love cannot be eternal, but between educated people it turns into eternal friendship, which is the key to happiness.
Be sick as little as possible, don’t be late for the theater or cinema—husbands don’t like to wait. Don't skimp on tenderness....