A person who is not fit for anything. I'm not socially attuned at all

Almost the same with me. Recently I had a tantrum about this. Everything that had accumulated over the years came crashing down on me. And I could not stand it and burst into tears ... at work (I was hurt on the wrong day, at the wrong hour). I feel like I'm an outcast. Which no one loves. Everyone hates for something. Wherever I am, everyone eats me up. School, work, married was-gobbled up. I behave quietly, silent, it is impossible to be friends with someone. Although I try to be friendly, I don't feel the need to be friends. I can talk when I really want to, but not often. But apparently they don't like isolated people like me. Yes, and I like to do what seems right to me. Sometimes I say no when others don't like it. I might even go overboard. I am a white crow. No. Not a gray mouse. I am visible, bright. For some reason, always in plain sight, although I repeat once again - quiet, calm, silent ... It oppresses me that I am always alone. Just like you, my mother constantly takes care of me. Doesn't let the air breathe without her. Which makes me hate. It's bad... I'm alone. No boyfriend and never had a real one. Marriage is fake. My husband didn't need me. There was passion in him at first, but then it quickly passed. Those who I like find their happiness with others. Every time I realize that the guy I like is not mine. And this turns out to be true. And every time this inner bell rings inside me. Not for me. Not for me. not for me... And I'm offended, well, when will mine be? If there is anything on Earth for me at all? Why am I so guilty. Born in the body of such a fool. With a whole bunch of phobias, not independent, dependent, notorious ... But after my boss, sitting next to me, said that I was not like that. At the same time, I didn’t say anything to her, I just couldn’t because of the sobs. I somehow felt better. As if through her lips, someone conveyed these words to me. And I think now. I DON'T HAVE TO LIKE ANYONE. So all my fears are gone. And I'm most afraid of criticism in response. I don't know how to react quickly and fight back. Therefore, I was afraid to take the initiative. She avoided interacting with people at all costs. Now it seems easier from understanding yourself, but I don’t know yet how this will manifest itself in practice. YOU SHOULD NOT CHOKING. Get used to what you are or get pissed off at what makes you so good and SOMETHING WILL NEED TO CHANGE. Death is inevitable and so. And you think about how many more years you have to live and how much more will change in your life. Life can turn upside down in an instant and no one will warn you. For example, a week ago I could not even suspect that I would cut my finger and it would remain hanging with me. One moment and all life is not the same. (everything is not so scary, it bends and unbends with me, but does not rise, oh, if only I knew, if only I knew ...)

Good afternoon. I am confused about the meaning of my existence. My life is a gray routine, combining the work I hate, poverty and hopelessness. I haven’t enjoyed life for a long time, I don’t have any interests, in my free time I just sit in front of the monitor and watch a movie or play something. It is extremely difficult for me to make contact with other people, I say almost nothing, so I feel extremely uncomfortable in the company of people. Sometimes alcohol helps in the company of people, but there was a period when I abused it, but I realized it in time.
I tried to change jobs - but it turned out even worse, so after a year and a half I had to return to the old one.
I live with my parents and younger brother in 2 rooms of a small family (3-room apartment), and we still pay for the 2nd room, I help my brother get a higher education: I give him money to study, I try to help in subjects. My brother studies at the correspondence department, but does not work and, apparently, does not think.
There were no relationships with girls and are not expected in the near future. I do not communicate even with familiar girls, and even more so with strangers. But this does not worry me much, since new people for me are new worries, troubles, problems and stress, and it’s even scary to think about my own family.
I almost always think about something, dream, hover in my thoughts somewhere far, far away from this world, it often prevents me from concentrating on something, I don’t learn new things well, although I’m not stupid and I’m well versed in the direction of physics and mathematics, in history and the economy.
When I see how others live, communicate, laugh, travel, achieve success in their careers, it becomes clear to me that everything is very bad with me, that I am not adapted to life in this society.
Every night before going to bed I pronounce it like a mantra: "I wish I could fall asleep and never wake up."

Ruslan, Tolyatti, Russia, 27 years old

Psychologist's answer:

Hello Ruslan.

Man is such a being. Free. No one can force you to be happy with your life or adjust it so that you are happy. No one can force you to save your life. You have choice, rights and freedom. You can look for ways to help yourself reach a different level of feeling life, its fullness, for this there are psychologists, this is their work as well. You can work on the problem yourself. But if you feel that you can’t cope, contact the specialists, Togliatti is a large city, almost a million people, there are enough professionals working there (you can also contact specialists from other cities via Skype remotely). There is no definite meaning of existence; in this regard, a person is given the opportunity to find his own meaning, create it, work hard to find a unique, individual meaning for himself. And you can do it all. Potentially. You are a young, healthy man. And even if you have social anxiety, you can change a lot in your life.

Sincerely, Lipkina Arina Yurievna.

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