How men from different countries meet. Where to meet a Frenchman for a serious relationship and marriage How to get acquainted in France

Today, many people meet online. With it, you can find friends, lovers and even spouses from different countries. But how to marry a Frenchman? What are some good dating sites in France? And how can a Russian woman get married? Below you will find the answers to these questions.

Where to meet online

France has long been considered a country of love, and you can also get to know a kind and rich French man on the World Wide Web. It is easy to get acquainted on the Internet with a Frenchman for a serious relationship with the help of specialized sites. Let's name good French dating sites where you can find your future spouse:

perfect match. This site is focused primarily on dating foreigners from the US and Canada, however, when registering, you can click the button Outside the US or Canada? and choose France. The Pefectmatch website has advanced functionality for meeting other people. For example, you can use a special built-in application that will select a potential partner based on your preferences and habits. This site is paid;
MatchMaker. This site usually registers French men over 30 who are looking for a serious relationship, and this site has been running for over 20 years. Also on it you can get acquainted with residents of the USA, Canada, Great Britain, Germany and other countries. The use of the site is paid, however, upon registration, the user is usually given free access for 1 month;
mamba. This site is Russian, but many men from France are registered here. The site allows you to find men for friendship or sex, as well as for a serious relationship. The site has a lot of special options with which you can easily find a French friend. Reviews about the site are positive, and you can register on it absolutely free.

Features of using sites

Let's list the characteristic features of sites for dating French men:

Online dating has both pros and cons. The main plus is simplicity, and the main minus is that you can never be sure that the person "on the Internet" is the same as in real life.
The main language of communication on such sites is French, but many French people speak English, German and Spanish.
Many dating sites are paid, but registration usually provides free access for 1-3 months.
Many sites require you to specify the purpose of registration. The main options are for friendship and communication, for sex and for a serious relationship. Therefore, when meeting a man, be sure to make sure that his registration goals coincide with yours.
When registering, you can not indicate your real passport data. Therefore, after meeting a man, be sure to ask him to tell about himself, and also took a few photos. With the help of such simple requests, you can understand whether the profile is real or not.
Many sites have sections for gay dating, so people with non-traditional sexual orientations can get acquainted with them.

Moving to France

So, let's say that you have found a suitable French man and are planning to marry him. Now about how to prepare documents, move to France and get married:

First you need to apply for a class C tourist visa. To do this, get a visa invitation from your French friend in the mail and buy tickets. After that, contact the consulate, provide all the necessary documents (passport, international passport, certificate of employment, and so on) and pay the consular fee. You must also attach an invitation and write a statement stating that you are going to France.
After that, you come to France to your chosen one.
You can conclude a prenuptial agreement, which will enter into force after the official conclusion of the marriage.
Now you need to get married (in France, you can conclude both traditional and gay marriage). To do this, you need to contact the city hall along with your chosen one. You will be interviewed and submit the following documents:

photocopy of the foreign passport together with the visa;
birth certificate translated into French;
document on the stay of an individual;
divorce certificate (if you are divorced) translated into French;
marriage contract certificate (if you plan to conclude a marriage contract);
some other documents.

Now the mayor's office must consider your documents. If there are no obstacles to marriage, then 10 days after the submission of documents, a marriage procedure is scheduled.
To marry, you need to visit the city hall again with your chosen one. There, you and your chosen one will be read out marital rights and obligations, after which your marriage will be recognized as registered.
Now you need to apply for a residence permit. To do this, you need to return back to Russia and request a long-term class D visa at the embassy. At the same time, you must indicate in the application that you want to receive a visa of this class, since you are the wife of a French citizen.

After that, you can return to France again. With a class D visa, you apply for a residence permit in order to become a full-fledged French citizen in 5-6 years.

As soon as I left the “green corridor” of Domodedovo, the Motherland met me with such relatives, such touching words: “What beautiful boobs!”

So warmly, at home, one of the taxi drivers greeted me, after sticking his nose into my neckline. Didn't push hard. Childish. With sincere admiration.

“Well, here I am at home,” I thought.

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Somewhere in America, such behavior would be completely impossible. For a man trying to sell his services to a woman to compliment her breasts along the way? Unthinkable!

Americans stopped harassing women half a century ago, having concluded a new social contract among themselves: openly flirting with women and staring at them is unacceptable.

American tackles are more friendly than sexy. During acquaintances with them, a woman does not feel like meat. An American will look into your eyes, not in your neckline, and talk about general topics, and not about how sexy you are.

We, in Russia, have a different social contract: a man will suck on you with a lustful look and allow himself ambiguous statements about you, but only on the condition that you are alone. If a husband or boyfriend looms nearby, our boys will not climb. When a woman is busy, they understand this purely as a man and respect the right of another male to her.

In France, they will stare at you without looking away, regardless of whether you are walking alone or with a man. Words will not be said, but they will look, and they will shit on your boyfriend. At the same time, they will not fly.

All the men there need is to admire the sexy woman. And even if you are walking alone, they will most likely limit themselves to looking after you. In order to get to know a woman, a Frenchman needs a go-ahead from her: an invitation with a look, a smile.

Unlike the French, neither the Americans nor the Russians need such a go-ahead. An American will approach you even if you are not looking at him. It will fit and rub in something neutral-friendly. A Russian will knock you down only if you are without a man. And you will have to make a lot of efforts to get rid of it.

Neither Germans nor Austrians stare at women. Their views are discrete: he looked and immediately looked away, looked furtively and again stared at his coffee. These guys, like the French, need a special invitation to get to know you. Smile at him and he will come.

The Spaniards, sorry for the stereotype, are hot, but they don’t stare at a woman for a long time, they don’t study her. Did you like it? The Spaniard immediately bases, afraid to miss the prey. He might go on a first date already with a gift in an attempt to stake you out.

A Jew will not allow himself anything frivolous, but if he likes you, he will approach you anywhere at any time. For example, at an intersection while you are crossing the road. I had this every day when I went to the beach in Tel Aviv. Rejected? It's OK. The Jew will roll off without problems. It will not be imposed and frisked after you.

Closest to ours are the Italians: they stare and talk all sorts of frivolous nonsense. And even if you go with a man, they are unlikely to resist a compliment. True, they address it not to you, but to your man: “Oh, what a clear woman you have, dude! Keep it up!"

Girls, tell us about your experience of dating men from different countries. Who gets to know each other?

Guys, how do you meet the women you like?

Ecology of life. People: On the Internet you can find a million and one more text about "Russian" wives abroad - readers and authors of these articles are very fond of exaggerating all the subtleties and differences between "our" women and foreign women. But I have always been interested in the topic of men - "ours" and those to whom we go abroad.

Relationships in an international couple are very often like a litmus test: people from the same country could never make such amusing discoveries about each other as those two who were born and raised in completely different cultural and social environments.

On the Internet you can find a million and one more text about "Russian" wives abroad - readers and authors of these articles are very fond of exaggerating all the subtleties and differences between "our" women and foreigners. But I have always been interested in the topic of men - "ours" and those to whom we go abroad.

What, in fact, they bribe us? What do they have that great guys from their hometown and home country don't have? After all, when it comes to Slavs, it’s easy to immediately draw a picture in your head of how economical and caring we are, which is not surprising, because we were brought up in a patriarchal society.

For these virtues we are so loved by the Europeans, who live side by side with independent, emancipated women. But when you start talking about French men, nothing but a cliché comes to mind: they understand wines, romantics, wonderful lovers, windy, changeable, stingy, arrogant. What is the truth of all this? And what are they like in relations with us - by no means French women?

I became interested just enough that I asked about it 50 women from Ukraine, Russia and Belarus who met / were married to the French. The age range of the respondents is from 22 to 57 years. Everyone is very different, which is immediately felt by the answers to the 10 questions I compiled. Today I am posting the first 5.

WHAT DIFFERENCE IN RESPECT TO A WOMAN IS IMMEDIATELY STUNNING?

It was no coincidence that I asked this question the very first, because it draws out the most emotional moments that lie on the surface. And my expectations were justified: 90% of the answers came down to the fact that the French perceive a woman, first of all, as an equal partner in a relationship and not as the mistress of the house. Specifically, the word "equality" was mentioned in every second answer. A woman is perceived as a person, she is respected, they strive to make her happy, take care of her, while not exalting her as a princess and not worshiping her.

But in some answers, bitterness also slipped just about this: that there is no pronounced gender relationship that we are used to at home, where a woman is given flowers on March 8, they let her go ahead and at the same time they expect a hot dinner every day, order in the house, ironed shirts And so on.

The French, as it turned out, do not have this consumer attitude towards their partner - she is not a laundress, not a cook, and raising children is also not included in some purely “female” duties. The French are accustomed to dividing all of the above into two.

A double-edged sword and a kind of worldly pun: in our homeland we don’t like that all household duties are assigned to us by default, but when we marry a foreigner, we voluntarily take on what no one is forcing us to do.

WHO PAYS THE BILL IN THE RESTAURANT?

I don't know why everyone is so interested in this, but this is a very popular question when it comes to French boyfriends. In fact, from the very beginning of my acquaintance with my boyfriend, I have been constantly haunted by some kind of legend about the stinginess of the French, which has not yet justified itself. After four years of relationship, I tend to think that the European habit of buying less is more is often mistaken for stinginess. So, about restaurants.

Also, some of the girls have been pretty blunt about not understanding when it's any other way. At the same time, the French do not like it when a woman takes for granted that he pays for everything - returning to issues of equality, this is more than logical.

All other answers to the question say “50/50”, “pay by turn”, or “the one who invites pays”. I specifically do not share the answers of those who are married or just dating a Frenchman - both there and there the situation is approximately the same. I personally really liked the remark that some added to the answer: they say that the French are pleased if sometimes a woman pays the bill - they perceive this as a sign of care and love. And I fully support them in this.

DO THE FRENCH GIVE FLOWERS?

Another plane of eternal disputes, and more often just complaints from our women that Europeans do not give them. There is an ambiguous impression here: on the one hand, there is a culture of magnificent flower shops, of which there are a great many everywhere in France, the sale of fresh flowers in food markets, in supermarkets, and the obvious demand for the product itself.

On the other hand, there are a lot of stories about the fact that the French do not give flowers. Only six women out of fifty respondents said that their men give flowers often, without reason and without reminders. The rest of the answers came down to either a reinforced concrete “never” or “only if you hint.” And a separate category "managed to accustom to a bouquet on March 8."

The fact is that the French (both men and women) very often buy flowers home just like that. Not as a gift, not for a special occasion, but just to decorate the house. They are taken in armfuls at the market - along with fresh vegetables, meat and cheese. Events are not made from a bouquet here, as we are used to.

Therefore, they do not attach any importance to it. And that is why our women are so touchy. This is an appendage to European equality, when you can quite safely buy flowers not even for yourself, but for home on a normal weekday - to please everyone who lives there. In our country, for now, the role of a festive attribute and a sign of attention to a woman is assigned to a bouquet.

HOW DEMANDING ARE THE FRENCH TO APPEARANCE?

We all know that French women are often talked about - not beauties, but stylish and with charm. And about the Slavs - that they are the most beautiful women in the world. And not even the natural beauty itself is amazing, but the amount of effort (money and time) that we invest in our appearance.

Which, again, is rooted in a patriarchal society, where everything revolves around a man - his choice, evaluation and approval. French women are much more freedom-loving and independent in this regard - they put their own interests above. What, in this state of affairs, do French men value more? Appearance or internal content?

Many women in their answers emphasized that the French are much less demanding in matters of beauty and grooming than their compatriots (already spoiled, it must be admitted). Of course, there are no fools - anyone is pleased when a woman takes care of herself nearby and knows how to emphasize the best in her appearance, but this is perceived only as a pleasant addition to her character and education.

And here the French have rather high standards: they love to talk about art, politics, literature, music - their companion should be able to keep up the conversation on any of these topics. Mind, erudition, broad-minded women delight them. But too bright makeup and overly revealing outfits rather scare them off - charisma and non-flashy sexuality attract them much more.

I especially liked the comment of one of the respondents: "Be a better version of yourself" - that's what a Frenchman wants from a woman. At the same time, men who take care of themselves expect the same from their partner. Unfortunately, this trend works exactly the opposite for us: no matter how good our woman looks, this will not guarantee that our man next to her will strive to look at the level.

SLAVINS VS. FRENCH WOMEN - IN WHOSE FAVOR OF COMPARISON?

No matter how women flirt and cunning, but in an international couple, partners always draw parallels and compare (at least mentally) their halves: we involuntarily put the French on a par with our ex-boyfriends who stayed at home, and our French notice the difference between us and their former or hypothetical passions.

Personally, the answers to this question upset me a little. Not even the answers themselves, but the fact that our greatest dignity in the eyes of the French is thriftiness and the desire to please a man. They call French women cold, self-centered, too demanding, pretentious, too independent and emancipated (it's interesting how quickly men got tired of emancipation if French women were only allowed to vote in 1944).

Slav women look like angels against their background - gentle, attentive, caring, masterfully lead their lives, cook, dress up and try for a man, put family values at the forefront and (I quote one of the respondents) "are content with little."

I often notice that the Slavs seem to feel sorry for the "poor, unfortunate French" who are tired of all these independent feminists. And the survey confirmed this impression. While Europeans are fighting for equal rights, our women continue to cultivate the dominant role of men.

In a sense, this hinders the development of civilization. And there is nothing surprising in the fact that a Frenchman, “tired of emancipation”, choosing between two women, will stop at the one who has not only a rich inner world, but also culinary skills, a perfect manicure with a haircut and a willingness to give in.

And everything would be fine, but this is also a small fly in the ointment for us: unlike the French women, who strive to emphasize individuality in appearance, the Slavs follow the standards - high heels, long hair, red lipstick and so on. And it catches the eye of the local men. That is, it turns out - we are somehow even too good for them.

While I was processing fifty answers to my questions, there were many vivid dialogues between me and my Frenchman, who also has something to compare with. It will be all the more interesting to publish the second part of this material, in which 50 women answered questions about their men's attitude to sex on a first date, whether it is true that the French are windy and fickle, and something else. To be continued! published

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Get married in France

What do you associate France with? Crispy baguette and croissants? With a beret that is back in fashion? With haute-coûture elegance and famous perfumes, quality cosmetics and gourmet cuisine? All right, but this is just the tip of the iceberg.

The French are proud of their country and are sure that nature has endowed France especially generously: with the seas, including the Mediterranean, and the beaches of the Cote d'Azur and Aquitaine, and mountain ranges with ski stations (Alps, Pyrenees, Vosges ...), and forests, and plains, and hills ideal for vineyards, and even access to the Atlantic Ocean. The inhabitants of France respect and value their history, they have a strong rebellious revolutionary spirit, they do not tolerate injustice and are always ready to help the disadvantaged. The French are real epicureans, even the busiest of them always find time for a measured lunch, dinner at a restaurant, an aperitif with friends, family vacations, cultural events. Most French people closely follow the political life of the country, book, theatrical, musical and film news, love long conversations and polite arguments.

French men take care of themselves - go in for sports, lead a healthy lifestyle, smoke much less than French women. They gallantly look after, know how to compliment and generally openly and elegantly admire female beauty.

The French are close to Russian values and Russian culture, many of them are familiar with Russian classics, many of them have Russian-speaking friends. And, of course, all the French admire the beauty of Russian women.

The French bureaucracy is notorious for its sluggishness and slowness, but in French institutions you can almost always get everything you are entitled to and even more. Our marriage agency "Amelie" is familiar with all the intricacies of the marriage procedure with the French, and if you meet your fate with us, we will be happy to help you with all the paperwork required for marriage in France.

Our marriage agency is me and my husband Pierre. I am a Belarusian programmer, I got married in 2003. In my country, loneliness awaited me, and this did not suit me at all ... We met on the Internet - I registered with various French marriage agencies and searched on French dating sites for two years, until I really found "my" man. Maybe I'm lucky. But most likely, if you know exactly what you want, and how to achieve it, and go towards your goal, then marrying a Frenchman is real, I'm sure!
Pierre deals with organizational, financial issues, correspondence with the French. I am engaged in the development of the site, accepting questionnaires, answering questions by e-mail and by phone. We invite Russian women - beautiful, but lonely - to our marriage agency who want to get married in France. (But not adventurers who just want to travel at the expense of a romantic Frenchman in love! The data will be checked against the "black list"). Our agency is only for serious relationships, the purpose of which is to create a family!
French men are sensible to age and know how to appreciate a woman. Well done French women, taught them - they know their own worth! And our women - smart and beautiful - often put up with loneliness, believing that time has been lost and nothing else remains ... In addition, men often say to them: "Who needs you already?" ... and she begins to believe in it herself - and this is the saddest thing ... France is a country of love, and there are many single French men! Try your luck, my dears, because you deserve it!!!

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