Is it necessary to force children to read quickly and write beautifully. The child does not want to read: Effective advice to desperate parents Is it necessary to force the child to read
But today's children absolutely do not like to read! And acquaintances told about their children, and I see it in my child. The second grade is already, but the love of reading has not appeared. But there is love for the TABLET and TV.
Now I am quietly developing my child's interest in reading different books. Unfortunately, this interest cannot be developed for free. Modern children do not like to read old literature, even the TALES of the old plan are not interesting to them (maybe, of course, they love someone, but many do not).
I decided that instead of toys, now I will give beautiful books. Now I’m “addicted” to these books by Holly - Web and Daisy Meadows (there will be time, I can write about them in more detail).
What I want to say: the child was really interested in them. Already ordered on Ozone (it's cheaper there than in our bookstores) a few pieces as a gift.
For the first time, my daughter saw Holly Webb's book "Millie the Kitten or Welcome Leopard" on the Internet, she wanted to read it herself (she was intrigued by the cover). I downloaded the eBook for her for free, but it only contained a snippet of the book. She quickly read this fragment on the tablet and naturally wanted to continue the story. I decided not to buy the full electronic version of this book, but to buy all the same - printed (she has a tablet too often in her hands). Daughter read it - excitedly! Several chapters at once (and not one at a time, as we usually read), without requests and persuasion.
As it turned out, the writer Holly Webb still has a lot of books of the same kind, mainly about kittens and puppies. Modern children of primary school age, it seems to me, they will be very interesting.
After giving her a book Sophie the Squirrel or Be Careful Dragons writer Daisy Meadows. This book is part of the "Forest of Friendship" series, which should have been read from the first book "about the Rabbit". But we didn't know! And still we read it and it was very interesting (although if we had read it from the first book, it would have been clearer). Now we bought a book about a rabbit, after that I will order about other animals.
These books are very interesting, even I read them! I decided now to collect the entire series "Forest of Friendship".
Holly Webb book included in the series "Good stories about animals", however, these books can be read separately, regardless of the book's release date.
Book "Daisy Meadows" included in the series "Forest of Friendship": you need to start reading from the first book "Rabbit Lucy or the Magic Encounter" otherwise there will be "holes" in understanding the plot.
To be honest: Daisy Meadows' books from the Forest of Friendship series I liked even more, because. there the plot is filled with magic and magic (I love fantasy). In Holly Webb's books, the plot is closer to reality and not much less dynamic, but this also has its pluses.
Both books have a beautiful bright cover, large print and thick sheets of white paper. There are pictures, but they are black and white (but there is an opportunity to color them).
In any case, both books are good and I think that I will order them again (suddenly the child will fall in love with reading after all).
I think that reading is still useful for children: develops imagination and introduces children to new words, phrases, teaches how to build sentences, write and even speak. However, many children of preschool and primary school age do not like to read, they are better off watching TV or playing games on a computer / tablet.
Do you think it is necessary to force a child to read if he does not want to do it?
What other children's books for primary school age can you recommend?
How do you convince your child to read? Should time be spent talking, or should the child simply be forced to read? What should parents do when their hands fall from despair? Let's try to discuss these topics. We have prepared a list of the most important recommendations on how to get a child to read and whether it is worth it:
1) Modern world
Reading books is great. However, we should not forget what time we live in. Even some ten years ago, information was perceived in a completely different way. Previously, reading books, newspapers, magazines was the main way to get information. Today, almost all information we receive from the Internet. Therefore, often the requirements of parents regarding reading are not entirely adequate, since mothers and fathers do not take into account the modern rhythm of life.
2) Substitution of meanings
Quite often, in their expectations, moms and dads are too emotional. In strict and annoying notations, expressions can slip through: “if you don’t read, you will grow up to be a loser ...”. This is a substitution of concepts. Parents should make the right accents “reading is exciting and interesting”, as a result we get: “reading is right, necessary”.
If parents in their educational processes do not change “minus” to “plus” (discontent and criticism for encouragement), the child will develop a complex of “not meeting expectations”, and the very fact of reading will turn into a “fad” that causes tension and protest. Then you will definitely have to constantly force the child to read and this will not lead to anything good.
3) Overwork
It is no secret that today's children are subject to greater mental stress than previous generations. Today there is a general tendency to escalate the situation around both reading and preparing children for school. Toddlers almost from the cradle are forced to cram the primer and read in syllables. Because of this race to the forefront, in the life of a modern baby, learning has become too time-consuming, and the requirements of moms and dads are constantly growing. Parents often impose their own vision of the world on the child, naively believing that if the child can read, he is definitely ready for school. This is a huge misconception. To prepare the baby for school, parents should pay more attention to the overall development of the baby: fine motor skills, physical training, logic of thinking, psychological adaptation to society. And then the ability and desire to read will follow by itself.
4) Reading parents
For the correct familiarization of the child with reading, the general home atmosphere is extremely important. If the baby sees that the household is spending their free time watching TV, it is hard to imagine that the baby will want to pick up a book on his own. Therefore, in this process, personal example is very important. While learning to read, it is necessary to isolate all distractions, except perhaps soft classical music, pre-selected specifically for the plot of the book.
5) Filmstrips
A good motivator for introducing reading will be filmstrips that will help to interest the most restless reader. The very atmosphere of the mysterious preparations, the magic beam of the overhead projector and the white screen will set the child up for something magical and exciting. Bright shots of the "cartoon on the wall" are more lively and rich than the drawings on the pages of books. And small reinforcing texts will not cause overwork and boredom.
6) Reading together
Another sure way is to read books together before bed (for example, 20-30 minutes). At first, you yourself read exciting literature to your child, but at the most interesting place you stop with the words: “Oh, our time to read is up. We'll find out tomorrow what happens next." Thus, the child develops interest and intrigue to continue and independently read outside the allotted time.
And most importantly - parents should be more patient and attentive, and then your child will make his first steps in the vast literary world easily and with pleasure.
Sergey Vasilenkov for the Women's magazine "Charm"
Every parent faces a stage in his life when the child is preparing to go to 1st grade. Someone starts training at the age of 5, someone at 6, if the child goes to school at the age of 7. However, reading is unavoidable. How do we act with a child to force him to read? How many nerves do we spend on this? And why? Why do we force a child to do what he does not want? The thing is, now the era of “comparison”, comparison of parents has come. Which in no case will benefit the child, but only harm, but we don’t even suspect about it. We look at other children and compare with our own, and God forbid our something will be worse than others! So here it is there has never been a case where a school graduate could not read . Everything is simple. All children are different, never compare a child with another, otherwise he will have low self-esteem from childhood, and he will always feel worse than the rest. Someone has good handwriting, but he can read slowly, someone writes like a “chicken paw”, but has such a powerful mind, someone does not read well, rearranges letters, but has such strong Creative skills that he does not yet know about it. All children are unique and talented, just not all parents can see and reveal this talent.
Ways to motivate reading
Many write that "If you read books, then by your example you can show the child that it is interesting." Although here I can argue. My husband's father is a very well-read person, he has a huge library at home, he knows every book, where it is and what it is about. But this did not affect his son in any way. He just doesn't like to read. He was interested in technology and everything connected with it.
The child himself must come to the love of books. And most importantly - this is a book that he will choose himself, and you will help him with this. For example, you say:
- “I saw your girlfriend have such a beautiful and interesting book, she reads it, ask what it’s called.”
- “Look, do we have any interesting books in the closet?”
- “Can you imagine Masha reading the same book as we bought you!”
If you do not have a suitable book that would satisfy the child, buy the book that he chooses himself. With illustrations and short texts. We had a book at home that our daughter chose, Cinderella.
I was surprised when I heard from the corridor that she was reading. She became interested in reading. And at this point it is important to maintain interest. Join, ask to read for you, listen with interest, discuss. Make evening reading a ritual that you cannot fall asleep, how much you are interested in the further events of the book, and the child is an important character in this. Only she (he) can read so well for you!
Most sadly state that modern schoolchildren prefer smartphones and TVs to books. And, they are invariably popular among the maternal environment.
The site editor Natalya Kovtun, mother of 9-year-old Sasha, has an alternative view of children's reading. The child does not want to read - and it is not necessary. There will be something to occupy him besides books.
My nine year old son does not read books. At all.
He has a drunken reading mom and dad, but of his own free will he will not read a single line beyond the school curriculum.
They say to me: how is it? After all, reading is the development of everything: speech, intellect, imagination! Here are hundreds of articles on how to teach (motivate, force, underline).
Thanks, I answer, but it is not necessary.
Everything that these articles advise, we have been applying for a long time. There is no TV in the house, there are books. Parents are reading. Reading together before bed is generally a fetish and a tool for mutual manipulation: “If at 10 you are not in bed yet, I don’t read.” "If you don't read to me, I won't sleep."
My son loves stories in books. And the letters in the books are not.
He was born and raised in the era of computer interactive. Making him fall in love with black letters on a white sheet is like driving back into the ocean that dinosaur that was the first to grow lungs and come out to live on land. To drive and mumble that all the ancestors breathed, as expected, with gills. And he, you see, has lungs, he, you see, into the air.
Take the same computer games: here you have intelligence, imagination, and creativity. (Computer? How so! Here are hundreds of articles for you, how to distract, prohibit, wean)
Let's be honest. As a child, didn’t you dream of a book so that the pictures in it didn’t lie dead on the sheet, but moved, like in a cartoon? And would show everything that is written on the page?
Better yet, sit and read. And then he wanted - hop - and you are in the book, in the story itself. Like a hero in a movie. And you don’t just do what the author came up with for you, but you decide how to act. Who to help, who to fight. Whom to save, so that where everything ended badly, now it ends well.
Our children got all this for nothing, by birthright in the digital age. They are not satisfied with the letters on paper - their stories and fairy tales live in completely different spaces and scales. They are free to choose their own roles and behavior. They are not consumers of history, but co-authors.
And we are trying to take away this right from them and return them to the letters on the sheet. Why?
Because those letters were written by someone we think is smart and important? Because we ourselves once read these letters, and we liked it?
Or because the development of the intellect is associated with painful necessity, and not with entertainment?
Perhaps my child will outgrow his rejection of books and understand the taste of reading. And perhaps not. I don't see this as a problem.
But I see that he perceives audio-visual information unlike text easier. And that the BBC video gives him more than a natural history textbook. And that in his Minecraft he learned more English words than in class at school.
Here we will add pumped spatial thinking and the ability to logical constructions, on which Minecraft is based. And the ability to keep detailed pictures in my head, and the ability to operate complex processes.
In my head - because the tablet is on schedule, and the plans for the game are spinning non-stop in my head. We have to visualize and calculate the actions purely speculatively.
Virtual reality is where my child is already better than me. A few more years, and in some things he will hopelessly overtake me. Your children will overtake you too, no matter how many books you and I have read.
There is no need to hold them by the tail and not let them into the new, just because they know how to do more than we did at their age.
Therefore, I sometimes allow to sit longer in the game, when it is very necessary to finish something urgently. And I restrain myself when I want to reproach: “It would be better if I did something useful.”
A photo: Natalya Burukhina
I love to read. More precisely, this is not a very suitable verb: after reading a book, I just suffer on a physical level if I can’t find something new and interesting for a long time. Immerse yourself in the world of drama or detective story, intrigue or wandering. But it was not always so.
I was surrounded by people who read: parents, grandparents, their friends... But I remember well how I was languishing over "Tom Sawyer" and "Conduit and Schwambrania", barely bothering the measured 10-20 pages. But then something clicked ... and I began to read excitedly. I don’t know what happened, just as I don’t know if this will happen in the lives of my children (in my heart I really hope so, I won’t lie).
Having become a mother, I, like millions of parents, faced the fact that children do not always follow the example of their parents. So I immediately remember the joke of my university psychology teacher that a person is formed not only by Wednesday, but also by Thursday and Friday ... Moreover, if the eldest son reads and even takes the initiative, then the daughter has to really be forced to sit down for a book, at least from school list. Sadness and pain that haunts me.
Yes, we have a lot of books at home. Yes, we buy a lot of new products with beautiful illustrations and everything. Yes, I read aloud to the children. Yes, I explained that reading develops us like nothing else. Yes, I explained that this will affect the outlook and academic performance. Yes, I scolded.
Now I hid and wait. Although sometimes I force, and even, like a vicious mother, I demand to retell what I have read. I'm not so naive as not to know how easy it is to pretend that you read ... 25 pages in 3 minutes in the second grade.
And now to the main thing, to what excited me. Of course, I have come across such ideas before, but last week a young man stunned me that I was delusional:
Why you need to love reading modern world?! All the information you need can be found in a split second. Remembered - excellent, no - found again. What difference does it make to me what Tolstoy, Dostoevsky or Remarque thought? I myself decide everything in my life, and those problems are very far from us. Why this extra baggage? It's just rubbish in my head.
Far?! Trash?! Truth?! I can say a lot about this, but for some reason it doesn't get out of my head. After all, everything is simple and cynical. Only the rational component of our world. It is necessary - found, received, not necessary - do not bother.
Maybe it's true that no one needs our concern about expanding children's horizons, imagination, thinking. Are we just old fools?
What do you think? To force or not, to cultivate love and taste or not?
