15 Steps to Discovering the Inner Source of Love

Are you familiar with the situation when a relationship with a loved one ends suddenly?

What did you feel at that moment? Devastation? Insolvency? Pain? Disturbance? Like you've lost what is rightfully yours - his love.

What do we do after that? Looking for a new relationship fill the void in the heart, feel loved. We find, we lose, we suffer, we find again, we lose again... And so on in a circle.

How to stop this vicious cycle stop needing in the love of others?

Read the article and you will learn how to be filled with love from the inside and change your life.

"Those who have found the source of love within themselves no longer need to be loved - and they will be loved."

— Osho

We seek love because we don't know or understand that we can love ourselves. This seems absurd. Our worth must be validated from outside.

For some reason, it is not customary among people to first approve, respect, love themselves, and then accept the approval of others.

It turns out the opposite. First we try deserve someone's love, and only then we draw attention to ourselves: "I was loved, so there is a reason."

Where does self-depreciation come from?

Let's see where self-depreciation comes from.

They write novels about the need for love, compose poems, poems, sing songs. So much has been said about it!

Not one generation grew up on this. It is absorbed with mother's milk: "If you behave well, I will love you."

We are taught from childhood that love must be earned. We are growing on these installations.

No one sings songs that loving yourself is wonderful, natural. This would look in the eyes of society, at least, incomprehensible.

But what about the storm of passions, all these love sufferings? After all, it has long been considered a sign of nobility.

But in life, love appears and disappears, because someone's disposition towards us, it temporarily. Love passes, but the emptiness in the heart remains.

And we are looking for love from time to time, so that fill the void.

Many believe that it is better to suffer than not to have an object of sighs at all. Let it be fleeting happiness, let me suffer, but this is not an emptiness that absorbs everything.

Sooner or later there comes a moment when a person reaches the limit. Tired of looking for this elusive love. Then comes the understanding that something is wrong here. I'm missing something.

Is this pursuit of love and will continue all my life? When will this circling stop? Where is the harmony and peace that the enlightened speak of?

Even having received this cherished portion of love, we still feel unhappy, because now we have something to lose.

No matter how loving and considerate a person is next to you, he is not able to express his feelings every minute.

And we all demand and demand, we want constant confirmation that we are loved. The fear of losing grows and grows. And, in the end, this love goes away.

But you can't lose what you don't have. There is nothing permanent. It can only be permanent love for yourself.

If cultivated, watered and fertilized, this source will flow. And you and your environment will feel it.

How to come to this understanding? How to open the source of love and find harmony?

Step 1: Take charge of your life

This is the first thing to do.

Being in a state of sacrifice, we dependent on the outside world. Today we are bestowed with love and attention, and tomorrow we are betrayed.

When we take responsibility for our lives upon ourselves, the understanding comes that we should not expect any love from anyone. Yes, and it makes no sense, because everything depends on us.

We ourselves are able to give ourselves the necessary care and love even around the clock.

Step 2. Recognize the value of your existence on Earth

Those who seek love in the outside world do not love themselves, they underestimate.

Allow yourself to admit the very thought that you are valuable to the universe. We are all different, and we are all needed and important.

Think about why nature creates the same people. There is not a single flower exactly like another, not a single blade of grass, snowflake.

What can we say about people. Each of us has completely unique qualities and talents.

From this realization, self-love begins.

Step 3: Forgive and Accept Yourself, Your Parents and Partners

This is a lot of work on yourself, but it is worth starting, without this it is impossible to go any further.

The most important people for a newborn child are the parents. In the first years of life, they are the whole world for him. Things don't always go smoothly. More often, seeds are born in childhood, which in adulthood grow into injury of underestimation.

As children, we need parental love, and as adults, we try to fulfill this need at the expense of partners, and sometimes at the expense of others.

Parents and partners are ours spiritual teachers. They show us our weaknesses. But they just play roles behind which loving souls are hidden.

Forgive and accept them, and most importantly, yourself.

Gradually build up inside of you the core is the foundation of your self-love.

Even if at critical moments you again feel the old way, with the help of an inner core, you will never want to remain in a state of lack of love.

Step 6: Take care of your body

When your love vessel is empty, the surest way to fill it is take care of your physical body.

It is important to do this consciously, with the understanding that you are taking care of yourself, you are showing love for yourself.

The body is the seat of the soul. By taking care of him, you learn to respect him, to listen to his needs.

Even a simple self-massage of the feet, done with love, can return you to a state of bliss and peace.

But you don't have to do everything yourself, let others take care of your body. Make an appointment for a manicure, even if you are used to doing it yourself.

Train your mind to your body is worth taking care of.

Step 7 Thank Your Body

Learn to be grateful for your body, even if you think it's imperfect.

Your soul before the incarnation itself "built" the body that you now possess. And it perfect fit to perform specific tasks in this incarnation.

Try hugging yourself before going to bed, as if you were hugging a loved one whom you haven't seen for a long time. After a while, your attitude towards the body and towards yourself as a whole will change.

Step 8: Let Go of Negative Emotions

On the way to discovering your source of love, you will have to release emotions.

The more injuries, the more emotions your subconscious hides. Surely you know about the dangers of locked emotions. let yourself break free from them.

Here are some ways to do it:

• Breathing practices
• Physical activity: sports, cleaning around the house, beating pillows, beating dishes (if you don’t mind), digging a garden, etc.
• Emotional Release Technique
• Writing an angry letter
• The Sedona Method

Remember that suppressed emotions sooner or later will still make themselves felt. Don't hide them from yourself don't scold yourself for experiencing them.

Any emotions have the right to exist. But you yourself make the choice which ones you experience.

Step 9: Give Others What You Need

“Thinking that the world is denying you something, know that in reality you already have it. But until you yourself let it flow out, you won't even be able to know that you have it."

Eckhart Tolle "New Earth"

You are looking for love, confirming its lack in your life. There is nothing left for the universe confirm it creating an even greater deficit of love in your life.

If you need love give her to someone. If this is difficult, then give a particle of your attention and warmth. Most importantly, do it sincerely, without expecting anything in return.

Start small, feed a stray kitten, or buy a potted flower and take care of it.

Don't expect returns, show love as much as you can with pure intent, and soon you will feel that you are really overwhelmed with love.

Step 10. Admit your love

If you have never done this, then at first it will be difficult for you. Perhaps you will sabotage this exercise. It's really hard, but at first.

In the process, you will see how many emotions are hidden in you. You will understand how much you needed these words.

All your life you have been looking for love, longing for recognition, when at any moment you yourself could just like that support yourself.

If you find it difficult to do it yourself, use the practice of declaring love from the free course “Step to yourself. Challenge every day."

Step 11 Thank Yourself

If you still find it difficult to confess your love to yourself, start with thanks.

There must have been moments in your life when you were proud of yourself, when you were proud, admired.

Remember these moments and send yourself gratitude from the heart. Make this your daily practice after waking up and before going to bed.

Step 12: Discover Your Unique Talents

You all special. The more you learn to accept yourself, the better you will know yourself.

Learn to appreciate the qualities that nature has given you.

Often we think that there is nothing special about a certain quality of ours, in fact it is unique.

What we do best is what makes us special.

Pay attention to this. develop it and admire with their discoveries.

The exercise "Collecting beads" from the article will help you with this.

Step 13: Focus on the benefits

Continue to learn to pay attention to your positive sides. Fix them for yourself.

Write down your best qualities on a piece of paper, remember situations when these qualities helped you.

Remember what emotions you experienced at the same time, and in moments of disbelief in yourself fill this state.

Step 14. Tune in to oneness with nature

If you are born a woman, you are lucky. Be proud of it! Every woman is, without exaggeration, the whole Universe, Cosmos, Nature.

When you are in the fresh air, in the forest, by the sea, feel this connection, this unity with her.

Lying on the beach, on the rocks or in the forest on the grass, imagine that you are one with the earth. Entering the sea, river, any body of water, merge with the water element.

Feel this natural power. Try it, and you will feel the support, a surge of strength.

You will begin to open unique female strength, power.

This practice helps to feed on the energy of Nature and promotes.

Step 15 Enjoy the beauty

Listen to beautiful music, read poetry, admire blossoming flowers. Let the cells of the body absorb themselves all the beauty of this world.

Over time, you will look younger, your vibrations will increase, and you yourself will radiate harmony and love.

And remember that we do not come here to Earth for the sake of suffering. There is no point in suffering for the sake of suffering.

The meaning of being here find yourself and receive pleasure from every day that goes by.

The side effects of discovering your source of love will be positive changes in life, an improvement in appearance, rejuvenation, a cure for chronic diseases (heart, female organs), a complete transformation from the inside and gaining personal happiness.

These short meditations will help you activate Unconditional Self-Love in every chakra of your physical body.