A brief guide to online dating, or how to turn online communication into a serious relationship. How to get acquainted with a girl? Psychologist's advice Acquaintance tips

5 Take quantity

“I would advise you to start getting to know each other by carefully reviewing all the information on the girl’s page, and at least be original. So that I don’t have to answer: “The profile says what books I like.” (Marina, teacher, 29)

Of course, it is important to choose carefully who you write to. However, no matter how similar you may look at first glance (“hello, I also like the work of Joyce and Sasha Gray!!”), half of the respondents will not answer you and will not add you as a friend. This is the harsh reality. There is no need to be persistent here. Just expand your search range or try other options. Expand your circle of interests, cling to any coincidence. Sometimes you can add as a friend a long-legged girl who is completely unsuitable for you at first glance - after all, you both like her legs! Add, add, add - and be sure to answer everyone who reciprocated. Women usually respond to your requests, guided by a rather strange logic. You'll be lucky sooner or later: it's not worth wasting time on hopelessness.

“I just typed my last name out of curiosity. A list of namesakes came out. I chose one man by age, wrote to him. At first it seemed that we would never cross paths in life, so we were frank with each other. And then it dragged on. Communication with him seemed more real than my whole real life. He lived in Tyumen and I lived in Kemerovo. Six months of daily correspondence, and he invited me to meet in Moscow ... Here they stayed to live. I've been with him for three years now, and I'm happy." (Julia, PR director, 24)

6 Be careful with your girlfriends!

“A classmate accidentally saw on the Internet one young lady from our university. so this young lady has the status of my new friend. And they have love. After that, he was excluded from my life.” (Darina, makeup artist, 22)

Never comment on photos and videos of girls who know each other, do not write on their walls at the same time and do not send them messages, especially those made up of the same template. Otherwise, wait for a message with the question: “How do you know Natasha?” And this is one of those questions that, like “Am I fat?”, It’s hard to give the right answer right off the bat.

7 Watch where you're going

Do not rush to knock on the girl if she is not alone on the avatar (especially with a guy), even if you have looked at her albums (you need to look through them, you can only get a more or less adequate idea of a girl by 15-20 photos). You always run the risk of hearing a reasonable question: "Who are you talking to at all?" The same applies to the situation if only an eye is visible on the avatar, or a butt, or you can’t see faces, or there is a Pokemon in general. Bookmark the page and come back in a week, maybe she will change the photo to something more solid, then get to know each other.

8 Start with "you"

“Interesting young people rarely try to get to know each other, mostly this is a category of some kind of redneck gopniks, and when you refuse to get acquainted with them even very politely, they immediately write you 2 paragraphs of obscene language, where the most decent word is “rat”. (Dasha, artist, 20)

The girls are flattered, and you seem older. (Or she seems older to herself, if you are already an adult.) At the same time, then there will be a reason to virtually "take the relationship to a new level" by switching to you.

9 No "hello, how are you?"

(We decided not to edit this item, struck by the number of girls in the author's friends. Although, for the first phrase, any of the MAXIM employees, of course, would have come up with something more original!- Approx. ed.)

“There was a boy with whom we poured mud on each other for three months, and then we were going to get married.” (Olga, lifeguard, 22)

To speed up the process, copy to your clipboard a non-binding phrase like: “Hi! I have never seen such a wonderful, rare beauty. Of course, you don't care about me. But maybe there is a chance to make friends? And with a similar phrase, knock on everyone. Experience shows that only 0.5% (if you select candidates correctly) will send you off with the words: “Why did you write the same thing to me and Lenka?” The answer in 80% of cases will also be the same. Let's say that almost all the girls answered the above phrase: "There is always a chance." You can also answer this with a prepared phrase: “I am extremely glad that I am your friend.” Next, you will find a response emoticon. Here it is - an invitation to communication. If at least something was answered to you for any first stupidity, there really is a chance. Is always.

If everything worked out, ask what flavors she likes - not only will it tell a little more about your interlocutor, in the future you will be able to give it to her. If she likes floral compositions, pay attention to EAU DE LACOSTE L.12.12 Magnetic Pour Elle with a note of African flower and violet - no mistake.

10 Do not write "illiterate"

“A man wrote to me that he liked me, but I am not a supporter of online dating, so I answered boorishly and thought that communication would stop there. But no! He was correct and always responded to my attacks in a literary way. It turned out that I wanted to take a walk, but there was no one with me. He volunteered to take a walk with me. The walk was like a date, he even came with flowers. Well, then it somehow spun, we are together, everything is cool. (Alika, 19 years old, student)

Many girls can be repulsed by your ignorance. In ordinary life, you can hide it, but here the text is something like your clothes. And different "girls" and "I like" - like stains on a shirt. And not even from the mustard, but from the brains, which obviously have not been reported to you. Some networks have built-in spell checking, don't neglect this tool. If your certificate is decorated with a deuce in Russian, and “I really want to communicate”, try to check especially long messages in Word, in the browser spell checker, in correctly.ru or orfo.ru
- and as soon as possible to transfer communication to Skype or reality.

11 Don't disappear

“One was very persistent, the next day he offered to live with him in his apartment. I suggested to start by just talking. After a week of talking on the phone, to my “I’ll go to the club with my friends today,” he got very angry and began to say that he would figure out which club I was in, and in general that he would not let anyone close to me. I did not dare to continue the acquaintance. (Irinka, 24, pianist)

During the first two weeks, try to keep an active correspondence. And remember: all this is done in order to meet in person. Virtual acquaintance does not last long. About a month passes (relationships rarely last longer), and the connection fades, you correspond less and less, then stop altogether. Or the girl begins to answer with short phrases “I'm fine. And how are you?" It is important to make an appointment before this moment. Otherwise, the chance is missed. Although, of course, you should not be too intrusive.

12 Make an appointment smarter

“I went to check new messages, and there was one from him, well, somehow, word for word and three messages, we agreed to meet, I liked him from the photo, and I thought the meeting would not oblige you to anything. We met in a restaurant, I realized that he was quite decent, intelligent ... And they began to communicate, he had such a voice, and everyone said that we looked so good, and all that ... And then his wife wrote to me! They broke up, of course. And yet, it was great! So much emotions! :)” (Alexandra, actress, 22)

As soon as you understand that contact has been established, and the girl honestly tells how she is doing and shares her personal stuff, start throwing more often, saying that you are going to go to the first badminton lesson. Alone, so as not to disgrace ... Although, maybe it would be more fun to start together, otherwise you will suddenly quit after the first lesson. Something along those lines. At some point, after a couple of such stuffing, ask what she is doing that day, and then unobtrusively: “join”, “let's get to know each other at the same time”, “I think it's time to start talking in real life”. Be sure to ask for a phone number and make an appointment out loud. This is another guarantee that the girl will come at all. Because for many, the Internet is like Vegas. What happens online stays there. A word spoken aloud is already a form of a spell.

Keep in mind that soon the girls will read this article too, so hurry up to use the torpedoes of our tips before they are equipped with armor protection from them! If you read everything carefully, you will never be left alone. At least VKontakte...

Want to approach and meet a girl on the street but don't know how to do it? We will tell you everything about street dating: how to dress, how to choose a girl, original first phrases, examples of successful dating and much more.

Let's start with the appearance: what girls pay attention to when meeting

When meeting with an unfamiliar young man, the girl first of all pays attention to the appearance. Here are some helpful tips to help you make a good first impression on a woman:

Cleanliness, personal care. Clothing and shoes should always be clean. Do not forget also that if you wear a shirt or T-shirt, it must be ironed. In addition, you need to regularly wash your hair, cut your hair, and cut your nails.
Clothing size. T-shirts, shirts, and jeans that fit the wrong size are a very common mistake. If you are not sure that the size is suitable, be sure to consult the seller before buying.
Style of clothes. If you want to make a good impression . This does not mean that you have to look like models from the glossy covers of fashion magazines. It is quite enough to immediately decide on the style of clothing and in the future adhere to it without allowing inappropriate combinations. You don't know which style suits you best. We recommend .
Perfume. If you use perfume, then you should give preference to well-known brands. Girls easily identify cheap fragrances by smell.
Posture. Beautiful posture adds a lot to attractiveness. If you have back problems, you need to go in for sports. Swimming is the best.

How to draw attention to yourself

Most people on the street go about their business focused on their thoughts. If you want to get to know each other, you first need to draw attention to yourself.

First of all, you need to be in her line of sight. The best option is to approach her from the side. You should not “sneak up” on the girl from behind or block her way. This will only scare her.

As soon as you are in the zone of her visibility, you need to "catch" her eyes and smile. That's all. She noticed you.

What can you say to get acquainted: examples of successful phrases

The ideal phrase to start a conversation is “Hi.” If the girl answered your greeting, then half the work is done and the most difficult is already behind. Now you can start communication. What to talk about? In fact, it doesn't matter that much anymore. There are no universal correct phrases that work wonders. The girl has already appreciated your appearance, the ability to behave, confidence and naturalness. She has already made a decision for herself whether she wants to continue the acquaintance and if she likes you, she will support any conversation that you start.

Here are some real examples of successful dating.

"Hey. You look very stylish. Surely you know the best places where you can sit and have a cup of coffee in peace. Any advice?"

"Hey. My name is Daniel. I really liked you, I wanted to come up and talk to you ... "

"Hey. You just smiled at me so much that I even forgot where and why I was going. My name is Alexey…"

"Hey. I saw you and immediately wanted to come up and talk. Unfortunately, I don't have any free time at all right now, but if you give me your phone number, I'll definitely call you."

For dating, you can use the props. For example, you can buy flowers or colorful balloons and give them to passing girls with the words: “Hi. You are so beautiful that I wanted to give you this flower.”

The only thing to avoid is formulaic, hackneyed phrases like: “Hello. Let me get to know you."

Here are some more videos with examples of successful dating on the street:

Interested in dating girls? Then be sure to read our article. You will find a huge amount of useful information about dating and seducing girls.

How to conquer your fear

If you are worried and nervous when meeting a girl, this is absolutely normal. But sometimes the fear of dating is so great that you can’t bring yourself to approach a girl at all, or you feel so uncomfortable that you can’t communicate normally.

There are two basic approaches to dealing with fears. They can be conditionally called "shock therapy" and "step by step."

The fastest result gives "shock therapy". The main idea of this approach is that you need to "look your fear in the eye." You need to gather the strength to do what you are most afraid of. This method can be compared to jumping into cold water.

The algorithm of actions is simple: I saw a girl, threw aside all thoughts, immediately approached her and said the first thing that came to mind. This method is good because it allows you to get rid of fear very quickly. However, it requires very strong motivation and willpower. Not everyone can force themselves to do this. For such cases, the second method is more suitable.

The step-by-step approach is to achieve the goal step by step. For example, first you need to approach the girls and just ask how to get to the library or to the street. Pushkin (probably in every city there is such a street). After this does not cause any discomfort, we set ourselves a new goal - to start a conversation and compliment the girl so that she smiles. There can be many such steps. The very last step is to approach the girl, get to know her, invite her on a date and take her phone number.

A gradual movement towards the goal will take more time, but it will give an excellent result with a minimum of effort.

If you are still in doubt, then be sure to watch the video with a female point of view:

As you can see, the girls are not at all opposed to being approached and introduced to them. And they will definitely appreciate your courage and self-confidence.

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All that is needed for a successful acquaintance on the street is a decent appearance, and a little courage and self-confidence.

Acquaintance with a girl is always a very exciting and difficult moment for any man of any age. Therefore, in order to overcome this stage of a relationship, many guys resort to online dating services, since meeting a girl on the Internet is much easier than in real life, but there are also subtleties that should be taken into account, and today's article will focus on them.

How to start dating a girl on the Internet?

It is better to start any acquaintance, whether virtual or real, with a sign of attention, a compliment or a gift. If you want to meet a beautiful girl on a dating site, you must immediately come to terms with the fact that you will have much more competitors than usual, so you must somehow stand out from this gray mass. Fortunately, this is quite simple to do, if only there was money. Many services provide an opportunity to make a gift in the form of a virtual toy or flowers, which will later be placed on the page with the girl's profile. For special gifts, there is even an opportunity to give a VIP status on the site, which allows you to significantly expand the capabilities of the girl's profile (decorate your page, be invisible, hide your age, etc.).

We agree that a gift requires money, which is not always available in sufficient quantities, but we are now talking about your potential future. Don't you already feel sorry for 1-5 dollars?! In addition, if you met in real life, you would most likely invite her to a cafe, restaurant, buy flowers, etc., which would cost much more than a harmless gift.

From all of the above, let's sum up the first result: you should start dating a girl on the Internet with a virtual compliment - flowers, VIP status, soft toys, etc. In any case, a girl will like such a gift, she will pay attention to you, she will understand the fact that you really liked her, and you will be able to take the next step.

What to write to a girl when meeting on the Internet?

Now let's move on to the main thing, and you can even say the final step on the road to acquaintance. Since it is on him that your further joint relations will depend: whether they will be friendly, loving, or will be completely absent.

There are several rules that will include advice on what you can write to a girl and what not:

Never reveal the whole truth about the purpose of your acquaintance with her. The answer should always be the same: “I am looking, first of all, for a girlfriend, and then how fate will turn out ...”. Even if you want to marry her, want children from her and live together until the end of your days - do not write this. Some will understand this as a joke, others will perceive it as childish and frivolous. And of course you do not need to write about sex if you are looking for a girlfriend for an intimate relationship. Yes, you are cunning, but only in this case you will be able to win the girl.

Start the conversation by complimenting her. Appreciate the beauty of her hair, eyes, waist, long legs, flat tummy, etc. But just don’t go for vulgarity - you don’t need to point out her breasts, buttocks or hips at the first message. This needs to be mentioned, but not now!

Do not rush to take her phone number or make an appointment, 80% will refuse immediately. You must interest her to begin with, and only after that invite her to a cafe.

Pay attention to punctuation and expressions. Your phrases and mistakes will tell a lot about you. Excessive "literary" will show your pedantry, seriousness and may even scare the girl a little. Be simple, build sentences more concisely.

Ask questions more often, tell less about yourself, unless she herself asks for it.

Call her by name more often, it bribes any person when he sees or hears his beautiful name.

Before asking questions, study her profile and ask questions based on it. Thus, you will have topics for conversation: hobbies, work, life principles, taste preferences, etc.

Feel that the stock of ideas is running out - end the conversation (just name an important reason) and offer to continue it in a cafe over a cup of coffee.

In conversation, be sincere, but present any fact beautifully. Even if you're just a retail salesperson, call yourself a sales consultant. Let there be a mystery in you.

If she asked you about the availability of a car that you do not have. Exit proudly from the situation: “I’m saving up more for a car ... I don’t want to exchange cheap auto industry!”. If you are ashamed of the brand of the car (Tavria), then answer that for you a car is not a luxury, but a means of transportation.

Do not pause in conversation! Try to ask her as many questions as possible, and as soon as you see that any particular topic is of interest to her, develop it by asking leading questions and telling your own stories or news you have read.

Be simple! Do not memorize certain phrases or sentences, your speech should be natural, but interesting.

If you can't think of a topic to talk about, then read our article:

What are you doing tonight, after our date?
Do you think I like you more than you like me?
Hello, can I talk to you? And then all sorts of girls stick around, trying to get acquainted ...
Hello, can you tell me how to cook dumplings?
You have a very happy nose!
Can you tell me the recipe for birch jam?
Hey! Today is an amazing day, can I cheer you up?
Hey! Are you on VK too? And I. Do you play flute? Me neither. See how similar we are!
Do you meet nice young people? Here I am!
You have beautiful eyes, what color are they?
And I bet you can't guess what your name is?
You probably won't give me a chance to meet you... But send me a smile if I'm wrong!
I'm clearly not the first person to want to meet you. But I'm the best! Do you want me to prove it?
Hey! I sell happiness! Do you want me to give it to you for free?
Can you tell me where is the best place to spend my salary?
I'm tired of waiting for you to make the first move. Hey!
You have amazing eyes, I can't tear myself away from them.
I look at you and understand that we definitely need to get to know each other!
Tell me, how many did you send off today? I'm four. Oh, and cheeky girls!
I looked at your photos and forgot to meet you. Hey!
Do you believe in love at forty-eight glance? And then I look at your pictures for so long that I fall in love!
How did you know I was online?
Let's change? You give me two hundred grams of sadness, and I give you a kilogram of my joy?
Can we talk already or will we just like each other?
Remember me? I dreamed about you!
Hello, I was reading an interesting story just now. The guy met the girl, and they lived happily ever after! By the way, do you know how he met her? Said, "Hi, I'm reading an interesting story right now!"
You know, before I met you, I was sure that I was gay!
How about flirting?
Hey! I want to interview you. Tell me what it's like to be the most beautiful girl?
Can you help me learn how to talk to girls?
Hello, I'm doing a census and I want to start with you!
Hello, please change my free time to chat with you?
You are very mistaken if you think that I want to get to know you. I want to invite you on a date!
So two damn attractive people met. Hey!
No, well, if you keep silent all the time, no one will get to know you. I'll help, hello!
You know, I didn't have a very pleasant day. I was upset, but then I saw your avatar.
Can you forgive yourself if you don't answer me?
Have you ever had young people crawling at your feet? And at the hands?
And if I were such a beautiful girl like you, I would get to know myself!
And who are you dating? And come with me!
Hey! I'm writing a book about what girls want. Won't you tell?
A stunning girl like you should have a beautiful font!
Hey! I got lost in life and barely found you, will you lead me out of the dim world of loneliness?
Can I flirt with you?
You know, there are things that are easy to imagine together - black and white, day and night, butter and porridge, you and me ...
Don't want to talk to someone who really likes you?
What questions do you think guys get slapped for?
You have a boyfriend? Maybe you need something better?
Are you in love with your city?
I love dogs very much. Could you tell me what breed is better to have?
Are you a professional stylist?
You are beautiful! Can we switch to "you"?
You spend a lot of time online, can we go to unwind?
You're so beautiful! Or do you know a professional photographer?
Imagine, I wrote you a huge text, and then they turned off the light. So just hello!
Wow, I love this band too! And what is your favorite song?
You have a very cute face!
You have such beautiful eyes! Especially the left one!
Gorgeous legs! And the right one is doubly gorgeous!
I like your mouth ☺
You know, you have such a cute chest! And there are two more of them!
Nice dress! You know, the purse doesn't really fit.
Have you heard the phrase that with whom you will lead, from that you will type? So, I like you, and I decided that I would get enough from you!
It was difficult, but I was able to write to you! Reward with an answer?
Have you ever ridden an escalator? Do you want me to ride?
I think I have amnesia, otherwise I would have written to you!
Do you happen to have a red thread? We would be able to make friends with her.
Your beauty struck me so that I forgot what I wanted to tell you.
Have you ever been offered a hand and a heart? I am a surgeon, I have a lot of them!
Excuse me, can I tweak your plans for tonight?
Didn't you just hit the "I like" button on my photo by accident? Not? It's a pity…
I wonder if your inner world matches your photos?
It must be bad to be your girlfriend, because you overshadowed everyone with your beauty!
I miss two things in my life - you and hair.
When I see you, I understand how good it is that I am single!
You know, your hair matches the color of my pillow perfectly.
Must it hurt to fall from heaven?
Girl, does your mother need a son-in-law?
I bet ten thousand that I ask you out on a date and you say no?
Marry me!
Urgent, call an ambulance, I was shot by an arrow of love ...
Give me your sadness I need it for experiments.
Hey! Could you please wake me up tomorrow? I'm afraid to oversleep.
Are you from a fairy tale?
Do you know what love at first sight is? If not, I'll write again!
Are you Alice, my contact?
Girl, are you probably tired of the question about your son-in-law?
I bought borjomi and salami, come eat!
And here I am collecting a harem. Only you are missing.
When are you going to take your first step? I'm tired of waiting and I'm doing it myself! Let's get acquainted!
I've definitely seen you somewhere, can you remind me where?
You are beautiful on the Internet, show yourself in life?
Hey! Amazing places in your photos. Where is it?
You wrote that you love “….” group. Do you have any of their songs on cassettes?
Have you ever seen a really interesting girl?
You have a very familiar face! Were you at the club yesterday?
You know the saying "listen to a woman and do the opposite"? Now, I don't want you to answer me!
I have a great job! Man/Girl to go to the cinema with me. Don't you want to try?
Hello. It's such a good day today. I want to cheer someone up. Maybe you?
Today I saw you in a dream, but you managed to say only your first and last name. And so I found you!
You have such beautiful eyes. I have been looking only at them for a long time, but I do not dare to write.